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HappyGentle Dogs, 8261 McKissick Meadows Road, Princeton, TX (2026)

08/07/2026

Hey HGs,
Unfortunately, I need to take a quick posting break. I have a lot of neat stuff to share, and many of you have asked for us to discuss some very important topics, and I can't wait to have these discussions with all of you.

But we have been struck technologically by a bad guy. He has attempted significant purchases on all of our debit cards, and we now have a virus or incursion of some kind on our pc.

All will work out just fine, we had safety measures in place. But it will be a minute to unravel all of it, and I probably won't be posting until then.

This is all a bit like a significant setback in dog training out here. And, of course, that happens occasionally!

Even the best of plans don't always work as expected. So, believe it or not, at HGD we actually plan on a training plan not working, and we develop a viable workaround if it occurs - and we do it before implementation of the training plan. We do this for all aspects of our HGD operation also, and it is paying off now with us being able to have no losses or material damage.

So, like all of you have had happen from time to time, a bit of a hiccup, but only a hiccup :)

Talk soon and enjoy your wonderful dogs!

No Pain. No Fear. No Punishment. Ever

08/06/2026

Thursday: How the Game Went

Hey HGs,
Yesterday I told you that Tracy and I were taking two of our grandsons to the Texas Rangers baseball game, and that we did the setup for the day the same way we do the setup for our dog training. So today I want to tell you how it went.

It could not have gone better. And I really believe all four of us would say the same thing.

Remember, we never asked the boys to be excited. You really can’t ask for a feeling, not from a dog and not from a person. What we did instead was build a day that was easy to enjoy. Good seats, good food, no rushing, our full attention, real questions and real interest in the answers. Then we let the day flow, and the feelings we could never have gotten by asking showed up all on their own, in the boys and in their grandparents too.

And, Tracy and I consciously worked really hard to not say no to our grandsons, and we never had to. All positive, all wonderful!

This is the same thing we do at HappyGentle Dogs every day. We cannot ask a worried dog to feel safe, and we cannot ask an over-excited dog to feel calm. So we do not ask. We build the setup where safe and calm are the easiest choices available, we reinforce what shows up, and the feeling just happens. And when it works that way, it tends to stay, because it was built with Cognition.

Thank you again to our beautiful daughter and son-in-law for those tickets. What a present.

We had a GREAT day!

So tell us, when did you last build a good day for someone instead of asking them to have one, and how did it turn out? And what would that same kind of setup look like for you and your dog this weekend?

Tell us in the comments. We read every reply, and so does the rest of the HG community. And if you would like help building the setup for your dog's hardest moments, DM us or call 972-658-8400 anytime.

No Pain. No Fear. No Punishment. Ever.

08/05/2026

Wednesday: Game Day and the Setup

Hey HGs,
Something a little different today. Tracy and I are taking two of our grandsons to the Texas Rangers baseball game this afternoon. One starts tenth grade in a couple of weeks, and the other starts seventh. The tickets were a Christmas present from our beautiful daughter and son-in-law.

You know that we spend fifteen minutes on the setup for one good minute of dog training. We did the same thing for this game. We know when we are leaving, where we are parking, and that lunch is hot dogs at the ballpark. And the boys know all of it too, because we told them the plan.

But the best part of our setup is this. Tracy and I want this day to be as much fun as it can possibly be for each boy, and gosh, do they have different personalities. The older one is at an age where a whole afternoon with his grandparents might not be the most exciting thing he can think of, and I can’t argue with that at all. The younger one sometimes watches his big brother to figure out what is the most fun. Tracy and I, however, will have a fantastic time no matter how it goes! We absolutely cannot wait.

So of course we are not going to ask them to be excited. We learned that from life and, explicitly, from the dogs. You cannot ask for a feeling, not from a dog and not from a person, and expect it to occur. What you can do is set up a day that is easy to enjoy, good seats, good food, no rushing, full attention paid by their grandparents, asking questions and caring about their answers, and then just let it flow. Probably splurge on a souvenir, something that makes this day a little more special for them. And when all that happens, we know we have set up the outing to have the best chance to succeed.

So now the setup is done, and now we get to just be together at a ballgame. Whatever the boys decide about the day, Tracy and I already know it is going to be one of our favorites of the whole year.

So tell us, who is the hardest one in your family to plan a fun day for, and what works with them? And has your dog taught you the same lesson, that a good time is something you set up, not something you ask for?

Tell us in the comments. We read every reply, and so does the rest of the HG community. And if the good time you are trying to set up is for you and your dog, DM us or call 972-658-8400 anytime.

(The boys' mom and dad are happy for us to share our day with the HG family.)

We’ll let you know how it goes 😊

No Pain. No Fear. No Punishment. Ever.

08/04/2026

Hey HGs,
It is a lovely August morning at HGD. Of course, it will be hot this afternoon, but we are working hard while it is cooler.

We are going to have a wonderful day of teaching our fantastic dogs.

Go do the same and hopefully find a peaceful place to enjoy while you are teaching!

No Pain. No Fear. No Punishment. Ever.

08/03/2026

Monday: Stop the Petting Early

Hey HGs,
Last week I asked you for one week of Intense Intentionality, a whole week of not doing, and I hope you began to see a difference in how she relates to you. Just a bit of a difference. Keep it up, it’s a cumulative process.

Now that you have that one week under your belt, I'm asking you to try one thing today and see how it works. This one is going to be really hard for some of you, and some of you may not even want to do it, and I totally understand. But we practice this regularly at HappyGentle Dogs, it makes a huge difference, and we find in every single case that the dogs come back with a tighter bond to us.

So, as you are petting her today, stop. Not where you would usually stop, way before that. Remove your energy, remove your voice, and remove your hand. Go very Zen and a little distant, so she does not feel like you are asking her to be there with your energy or eye contact either. And then just pay attention to what she does.
Does she stay with you and ask for more petting? Does she stay with you and act neutral? Or does she walk away?

Until a dog gets used to this happening on a somewhat regular basis, we typically find she walks away. We read that as her telling us she has had a little more petting than she wanted, or that the petting has been the kind she did not have much of a say in. So when you take your energy and your attention away, her walking away tends to be a knee-jerk, almost an involuntary action.

But once this becomes a little more normal for her, and she learns she has a choice in the matter, she is much more Cognitive, and she tends to stay longer and longer. Or at the very least she comes back more often, and stays more often, because now the petting is something the two of you decide together. That is why we practice it at HGD. It really enhances the relationship the dogs have with us, and the one we have with them, and I hope it works that way for you and your girl.

So tell us, when you stopped early today and went quiet, what did she do, stay and ask for more, settle in beside you, or walk away? And if she walked away, how long before she came back to find you?

Tell us in the comments. We read every reply, and so does the rest of the HG community.

And if her walking away hurts a bit, and you would like help building the coming back, DM us or call 972-658-8400 anytime, this is exactly the kind of work we love.

No Pain. No Fear. No Punishment. Ever.

08/02/2026

Sunday: What We Didn't Do

Hey HGs,
Here we are at the end of a week of teaching your dog where you were not once asked to “do” a thing, and you may have done more for your dog this week than in most of the weeks that you have been with her.

You caught yourself breaking an autopilot habit on Monday. You just said your cues one time on Tuesday, you didn’t repeat them. You gave him a walk with your undivided attention Wednesday and let her finish every sniff on Thursday; you went a full day without saying no on Friday, and you let her keep sleeping on Saturday. Six days, and not a single new skill to practice, not a single new thing added to your plate. Everything this week came from noticing what you were already doing and doing it just a bit better.

That is Intense Intentionality, and now you know why we treat it as a cornerstone at HappyGentle Dogs. The method you have watched us build, the setup, the distance, the yes instead of the no, and giving your dog a choice. It really doesn’t take more time and effort on your part. It just takes more Intense Intentionality. And you now have an entire week proving that when you change what you do, your dog changes right along with you, without a single correction and often without a single word.

So, keep the ones that worked. If one of the days didn’t work as well, take the time a bit later to try again. You might really be surprised at her change the next time when you are really expecting the method to work. You don’t need to keep all six going like a checklist. Even one of them, with Intense Intentionality, will go on quietly paying off for a long time.

So tell us, which one of the six made the biggest difference for your relationship, and how could you tell, what did you see in your dog that told you something had shifted?

Tell us in the comments, these answers are the ones we will be reading twice. We read every reply, and so does the rest of the HG community. And if this week showed you an autopilot pattern that feels bigger than one week of noticing can fix, DM us or call 972-658-8400 anytime.

No Pain. No Fear. No Punishment. Ever.

08/01/2026

Saturday: Let Her Sleep

Hey HGs,
Today's not-doing might be the sweetest one of the week.

Today, when you find her asleep, don’t wake her. Not for the kiss on the head, not for the photo, not for the cuddle you suddenly need on a Saturday afternoon. Just let her sleep 😊

This also might be the hardest one on the list. She is asleep in her sunny spot, she looks about as sweet as a dog can look. She is patient about being awakened, most of the time, so we tend to think no harm done. But sleep is real work for a dog. It is when her brain sorts out her day, calms her nervous system, and files away everything she learned this week. A dog who gets to finish her sleep on her own schedule tends to be a calmer, steadier dog.

Today's gift is a simple one. When she is sleeping, we let her sleep.
So today, with Intense Intentionality, let her sleep! If you feel yourself about to wake her, because it has become a habit, just take a deep breath, think about how much you love her, and let her continue to sleep.

And if there are little ones in the house, this is a great day to teach them the same lesson: that a sleeping dog is a dog we let be. It is one of the kindest house rules a family can have, and one of the safest too, since nobody, dog or person, loves being startled out of a sound sleep.

Then comes the part that makes this exercise worth it. Wait for her to come find you after she wakes, because she will. Sometime today she will wake on her own, stretch that special stretch of hers, and come looking for her person. And the affection that happens then is different, and it is because she chose it. You gave her a choice again, and she again chooses you!

So tell us, how many times today did you catch your hand already reaching for your sleeping girl, and when she finally came to find you on her own, what did she do?

Tell us in the comments; we would love to hear how the freely offered version felt. We read every reply, and so does the rest of the HG community. And if your dog never quite seems to settle into a deep sleep in the first place, that is worth a conversation. DM us or call 972-658-8400 anytime.

No Pain. No Fear. No Punishment. Ever.

07/31/2026

Friday : A Day Without Saying No

Hey HGs,
Today is the big one, and I’ve really been looking forward to it all week. Today, all day, we are not going to say no to him. Not the sharp no, not the tired no, not the no-no-no under our breath on the way to the counter. Today, with Intense Intentionality, we Never say No!

If you have been following us a while, you know why this is so important to HGD. Every time we say no to a dog, we emphasize to him what we do NOT want. So at HappyGentle Dogs, we spend our energy emphasizing what we do want. We find a way to say yes and not no.

Here is how it works in practice, because the no moments will absolutely come. He starts eyeing the counter, and instead of no, you call him to you, warmly, and pay him for coming to you with something better than whatever he was hoping to find up there.
He picks up the shoe, and instead of no, you trade him for the toy that is actually his and make the trade worth his while.
He heads for the door as it opens, and instead of no, you toss a treat back into the room and thank him for choosing it and not going out the door.

In every one of these, notice what you are really doing. You are showing him what you want, what is an appropriate behavior, given the same set of circumstances where he used to give you an inappropriate behavior.

One note before you start, because your dog's safety always comes first. If a moment ever turns unsafe, the leash slips, the gate is open, the chicken bone is already in reach, you act calmly and quickly and deal with it immediately. If needed, a hand on the collar and a cheerful trade is still a world away from a correction.

So tell us, how many times did the no almost get out today, and what was the yes you found to say instead? What was the actual moment, the counter, the shoe, the door?

Tell us in the comments, these swaps are exactly the kind of stories we love best. We read every reply, and so does the rest of the HG community. And if you spent today discovering that one particular no shows up over and over at your house, DM us or call 972-658-8400 anytime, building the yes that replaces it is the very center of what we do.

And sometimes we let our students splurge a bit, look at the fun this little dachshund is having!

No Pain. No Fear. No Punishment. Ever.

07/30/2026

Thursday: Let Her Finish the Sniff

Hey HGs,
Today we are not going to say come on, let's go when she has her nose buried in the grass at the mailbox post, she has been there a while, and the words are already in our mouth but please choose to not say them today. And sometimes it is not even words, just your small, absent-minded tug on the leash that ends her smelling adventure. That is the autopilot we are recognizing today.

So on today's walk, when her nose goes down, let the leash go soft and wait, with Intense Intentionality, until she is the one who decides the sniff is finished. Not you, and not the clock in your head. Her. However long it takes, and I will warn you now, the first few can feel very long indeed when you are the one standing there holding the leash.

And while you wait, count. Keep a little tally in your head of how many times today the “come on” almost got said, or your hand started to gather up the leash before you stopped it. That number is the point of the day. It is a measure of how much of her walk has quietly been running on our schedule instead of giving her a say in what is truly “our” walk.

Then watch how a sniff actually ends when she is allowed to finish it. There is a lovely moment there that most of us have never really paid attention to, because we have never really waited and watched for it. She lifts her head on her own, often gives a small shake or a soft snort, and very often the next thing she does is look at you, as if to say, all right, I am ready, where to next? You gave her a choice, and she chose to reconnect with you. A dog who ends her own sniff and then checks in with you is telling you the walk belongs to both of you as a team.

So tell us, what was your tally today? How many “come ons” did you catch before they got out? And when you finally let a sniff run all the way to the end, what did she do the moment she finished?

Tell us in the comments, we are collecting these little endings all day. We read every reply, and so does the rest of the HG community. And if standing still that long with your particular dog sounds impossible for any reason, DM us or call 972-658-8400 anytime, we would love to help you find the version of this that works for the two of you.

No Pain. No Fear. No Punishment. Ever.

07/29/2026

Wednesday: Leave the Phone in Your Pocket

Hey HGs,
Today’s not-doing is when you and your pup are out for a walk.

Today, on this walk, please don’t take out your phone. Bring it along, it belongs in your pocket in case you ever need it. It just does not come out on this walk. Not for the quick check at the corner, not for the text that can wait twenty minutes, not even for the photo of him being adorable, and I know that last one is the hardest ask of the three.

Because here is what our dogs get from us on so many walks, without our ever meaning it. They get the leash attached to our hand, and often the phone gets the rest of our attention. He is out there reading his whole world, checking back to see where you are in it, and you might be somewhere else entirely. He knows, too. Dogs read our attention as well as they read anything on this earth, and his checked-out person feels different to him than his present one. We have all felt the difference ourselves, walking with a friend who is glued to their phone.

So today, with Intense Intentionality, give him the totally present you on your walk. And to make it more than just doing without, give yourself a small job while you are out there. Try to notice three things about him you would have missed before. The way his ears move when a car door shuts somewhere. The spot he always checks first. The moment he glances up at you for no reason at all, and whether he finds you already looking back. That last one, when it happens, is really important.

So tell us, what were your three, the little things you caught about him today that the phone has been costing you? And be honest, how hard was it to leave it in the pocket? Tell us in the comments, we suspect this one is going to sting a little for all of us, me included.

We read every reply, and so does the rest of the HG community. And if the walk itself is the hard part at your house, the pulling, the lunging, the stress, DM us or call 972-658-8400 anytime, walks are some of our favorite things to rebuild.

No Pain. No Fear. No Punishment. Ever.