21/06/2026
Not all licks are for love... just like not all wags are happy. Doggo's have subtle signs of communication, often combined together that need to be read in context of a situation.
Doggy professionals can (or should be able to) read the dogs in their care and often prevent potential situations from arising 🥰🐾❤️
NOT ALL LICKS = LOVE
It’s understandable to assume that when a dog licks a person or gives them “kisses”, that it’s an obvious sign of affection.
While licking is certainly associated with affection, social bonding, investigation, excitement, or a positive interaction, it can also serve a very different purpose.
There is a term called "Kiss to Dismiss" - credited to Jennifer Shryock of Family Paws®, who developed it to educate families about dog-child interactions.
She uses it to describe situations where a dog's licking is not affectionate, but is an attempt to create distance, reduce social pressure, or attempt to end an interaction.
It's about a dog trying to navigate an uncomfortable social situation in a polite way without having to resort to stronger forms of communication.
Context matters, the situation matters, body language matters!
A relaxed dog with soft eyes, loose muscles, a wiggly body, and voluntary engagement is sending a very different message to a dog that is showing the body language of stress when feeling trapped or restrained by an interaction.
It’s so important to notice and respond to a dog’s subtle communication to prevent a situation from escalating.
Not all licks mean love, some licks mean - please leave me alone.