The Horse Aunty

The Horse Aunty Sympathetic coaching, specialising in confidence building. Advice and practical on the ground help with improving your partnership with your horse.

I am a sympathetic coach and am happy to help riders improve by looking at the whole picture of horse and rider to optimise the combination by identifying goals and helping you to make a plan to achieve. QUALIFICATIONS
BHS Stage 4 SM, Flatwork, Intermediate Teach. First Aid Certificate,and DBS checked. HGV Class 2 and trailer license,
APDT Bronze level Pet Dog Obedience Instructor,
ECDL and Clait

Computer Certificates. BIO
I started out as a Saturday girl in a private hunting and pony club yard at the age of 12 until I left school. I then worked in a large riding school and livery yard gaining qualifications and experience teaching. Working with all types of horses, riders and all levels. I did several part time equestrian college courses at this time. Gaining my BHSAI. Freelance work in dog boarding kennels, show jumping yard, continued teaching including private clients, hunting yard work, pony club camp assistant, grooming and showing up to County level with Mountain and Moorlands and a show cob for private owners. Horse Trailer driving included. Breaking 4 driving cobs, to ride. Training at Denne Park Dog Obedience club and passing my pet dog obedience instructors exam and being made chief instructor. Working in a large Hunting and pony club yard full time including teaching at Pony club camp regularly competing and training with their lovely horses. Gained HGV license driving 2 horseboxes. I had been working in an office to concentrate on my horses which have varied from young to old, rescue to schooled. I have been on the BHS West Sussex Committee for 7 years organising events for everyone such as a bitting lecture by Tricia Nassau-Williams and a Horse Rescue Demo by our Local Firemen. I had been helping with all aspects of running shows and clinics at Sands Farm Warnham as my horses were very happy liveries there. Now at Benbow Livery with my husband Darren's ride and drive mare, Blaen Morlais de Guzman a shared traditional show cob and my new mare Sally a Warmblood x Welsh. I have Kio my agility /obedience Collie and Millie our Romanian Rescue Whippet cross. I currently train and compete regularly at Obedience and Agility. I have been Senior Coach at Wildwoods Riding Centre, coaching everything from RDA to exam students. October 2021 now Freelance coaching in Surrey and West Sussex. I always am looking to expand my knowledge and have been training with Hilary Vernon from Informed Bitting from before lockdown with zoom and practical sessions as a Bitting Consultant. I have had coaching in Classical dressage, Natural Horsemanship, clicker training for horses and dogs, I was a lifetime member of the TTT Trust at Shamley Green (International/Classical coaches in jumping and dressage), I am an avid reader and try to take something from everything and apply what will work for me and to each rider/horse/dog as an individual. I have over 30 years experience and want animals to have the best holistic approach so if I am not able to meet your needs if possible I will recommend another professional from my trusted contacts.

Bridle of the week this week is beautiful Rua a Newforestx wearing her Ecorider Freedom Comfort bridle.
01/09/2025

Bridle of the week this week is beautiful Rua a Newforestx wearing her Ecorider Freedom Comfort bridle.

30/08/2025
30/08/2025

Discount code LIZZIE10

29/08/2025

Make plans now for how you'll keep your older horse active this winter; His health depends on it. Click the link in the comments to learn more.

29/08/2025

WHEN ARE WE GOING TO STOP SAYING OUR HORSES ARE JUST BEING ‘NAUGHTY’?

Now I know it’s the yard humour, naughty horse, he’s just doing it to p*e me off, he’s just trying to get me off today because he doesn’t like me……etc etc etc
He’s sooooo ‘naughty’

But this simply isn’t true.

There’s no such thing as a ‘naughty’ horse because naughtiness is a human trait because we have an intellectual brain and can understand a rule then purposefully break that rule should we want to.

So firstly a horse doesn’t understand your rules or you haven’t set any - they have no idea actually what you are asking.

They don’t have a human intellectual brain like we do

Horses don’t preplan- they are reactionary, they can work in the moment - I’m scared, what’s that? or I’m in pain for example.

So let’s change the word ‘naughty’ to what’s really going on - let’s use a better word.

Here’s some examples:

* Young, yes a horse may just be young, he doesn’t understand life yet in the human world, he’s trying to figure things out and asking lots of questions and maybe not getting the answers

* Confused- oh yes we see lots of confused horses that again have no idea what you want, what they are supposed to be doing and how they are supposed to react to situations because you haven’t actually said, clearly and every single day what they should do in a situation

* Untrained - that brings me to this word - How many untrained horses do we see and hear of, lots and lots sadly, so again horses need to be trained as a trained horse is a happy horse!

Imagine not helping your kids out in life, not educating them, not ensuring they do their lessons and homework and not doing your best by them to become the best they can be in life going forwards.
We wouldn’t not help them out, we wouldn’t not explain things to them and not spend your time as a parent doing this - we educate our children to become informed, rounded adults who hopefully under the world and how to behave and go in to be happy and successful.
Our horses need the same - when we buy a horse we take a contract out with that horse that you will train them, teach them, educate them and answer all their questions so they can become a well rounded, happy and confident horse then we can sit back proud of that achievement
You have to train your horses,

* Pain- there’s another word, it’s not naughtiness but instead something hurts, this could be saddle fit pain, back pain, teeth pain, foot pain, internal pain like ulcers, colic, kissing spine, they could have been stung by a wasp.
Many examples of pain, but your horses can’t just say ouch as easily as we can and explain what hurts so they aren’t been naughty- something hurts.

*Excitement - horses are allowed to be excited sometimes, it’s normal.
Some horses are more excitable types than others.
We have an excitable type horse here, he’s been this way for 11 years now, we love him dearly and actually like this type of horse as he’s so much fun but if we didn’t we have 2 options - Don’t choose to ride or buy this type of horse if you don’t like it or change yourself to like an excitable fizzy type of horse. Easy!

But you can’t spend 11 years hoping your horse will change to a slower plod type and missing 11 years with your horse and not enjoying it.

So here’s some examples of what’s really going on, but p*eing you off, trying to get you off for a laugh, not loading up when you are late for a show, bucking into canter, bolting when they are scared, rearing, breaking into next doors field because there’s more grass, treading on your foot, not standing at the mounting block, you get the picture, isn’t naughtiness and personal.

It’s a horse saying tell me what I’m supposed to do, what’s that, what do you want me do, something hurts, I’m feeling good today, I don’t like the horse trailer, you haven’t told me to stand like you actually mean it and repeated that everyday.
You get the idea

Enjoy the journey of training our horses and helping them out and make sure your answer their questions!

27/08/2025

Defensive riding is no longer generally taught. You can still find eventing instructors who teach it, but defensive riding is for all riding. The top images are of Brazilian show jumper Nelson Pessoa in 1970, a Silver and Gold Olympic Medal winner. Back then all riders rode defensively because it was practical and safe.

After the 70s, when the military instructors were gone, how horses were supposed to be ridden changed from practical to being about appearances with poses and other superficial techniques that are potentially dangerous.

The images below show the use of the "C" position, a staple of military horsemanship. Because horses can trip, stumble or collapse on landing a jump, riders, at the top or apex of a jump, move their feet ahead of the girth so as to be able to counter the forward inertia in their body when and if a horse slows or stops quickly in a bad landing.

If the rider's goal is to please a judge by leaning on their horse's neck over a jump, moving their legs forward ahead of the girth for the landing becomes impossible. This is one reason why riding for appearances is dangerous. Furthermore, because today's off balance forward, up on the neck crest release has become the standard jumping position, dangerous poses can be seen everywhere, including in fox hunts today.

Defensive riding is for -

Training young horses

Retraining older difficult horses

Riding young untrained horses

Riding horses you don't know

Riding challenging terrain

Going over or through obstacles

Or any other time you feel that an extra degree of safety might be a good idea. Defensive riding is not just for eventing and jumping.

27/08/2025

Top 5 habits of confident people:
✨ Breathe before you begin
✨ Focus on progress, not perfection
✨ Visualise success
✨ Stay present, one step at a time
✨ Celebrate small wins

Lovely feedback from the Simulator clinic thanks Ceri Padgett.
26/08/2025

Lovely feedback from the Simulator clinic thanks Ceri Padgett.

24/08/2025

🐴DRESSAGE SOLUTIONS🐴 Improve Rein Connection

To improve your rein connection ...

Imagine your point of contact with the bit is in your elbows, triceps and back, and that your arms, wrists and hands are just extensions of the reins. This allows the connection to be held in your body rather than your hands and allows the hands and arms to be soft.
~ Jessica Miller

🎨 Sandy Rabinowitz

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