31/08/2026
**Your dog doesn't need to say hello to every dog they meet. In fact, learning NOT to can be one of the most useful things you teach them.**
We often assume that two dogs meeting means they should interact, particularly when both dogs appear friendly. But dogs have individual preferences. Some love meeting other dogs, some prefer familiar friends and some would rather simply walk past.
There is also a practical problem with allowing your dog to greet every dog they see. They can quickly learn that **seeing a dog = getting access to that dog**. When you eventually prevent the greeting, they may become frustrated, pull harder, whine or bark because their expectation has been interrupted.
Being on a lead can make things even more complicated. Your dog cannot easily move away if they feel uncomfortable, and being approached directly by an unfamiliar dog while restricted can feel very different from choosing to interact with a dog when off lead.
So what can you teach instead?
When your dog spots another dog, allow them to look. You don't need to immediately distract them or demand that they sit. If they remain relaxed, reward them for looking back at you, walking alongside you or simply continuing on their way. Start at a distance where they can cope comfortably.
Watch their body language. If they become tense, stare intensely, slow down, pull towards the other dog or start showing signs of frustration, you're probably too close. Create some distance before things escalate. Crossing the road or taking a wider route is good management, not failure.
And remember, good socialisation isn't about your dog meeting hundreds of other dogs. It's about learning how to **cope calmly around other dogs**, while still having opportunities to interact with suitable dogs they genuinely enjoy spending time with.
The next time someone says, “Can they say hello?”, you don't have to say yes.
Your dog is allowed to walk past.
**Sometimes, not saying hello is the most socially skilled thing they can do.**