07/22/2026
Iām so sad to hear of the loss of Alexandra Kurland.
I canāt think about training horses without her immediately coming to mind. When people have asked me about clicker training horses over the years, Iāve always sent them her way.
She was one of those people who quietly made big waves. I know that many of you have been influenced by her in how you communicate with and work with horses and other animals.
Another soul who saw a better way and didnāt look back. She is inspiration to keep doing what we doā¦and keep doing it better every day, because we listen to what the animals are telling us.
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My heart is broken today.
Alexandra Kurland is gone, and I donāt quite have the words ā but I want to try, because she gave me so many.
I found Alexās work in 2010, recovering from a fall, not expecting much. Within weeks I had a different horse. He nickered when he saw me. He met me at the gate because he wanted to. He offered, instead of bracing. And slowly I understood: Alex hadnāt taught me how to make a horse do things. Sheād taught me how to ask ā and then how to listen, really listen, for the answer. That changed my horses. It also changed me.
This photo is one of the happiest of my whole life. Itās from a day at Anja Beranās, and Iām glowing in it because I had somehow brought my two greatest teachers into the same room ā the two people who shaped how I think about horses, and honestly, how I try to move through the world. I felt so lucky. I still do.
Everyone will call her a pioneer, and she was. But that word feels too tidy for who she actually was: warm, funny, endlessly curious, and good ā someone who spent her whole life making things gentler for horses and for the people who love them. So many of us are kinder, more patient, more awake because of her. So many horses have had softer, happier lives because she existed.
Thank you, Alex. For the clicker, yes ā but so much more for the way of seeing. I will miss you more than I can say, and I know I am far from alone. š