22/03/2025
Not something I would usually post to my training page but sadly due to the insane behaviour of one particular individual it has sadly come to this.
I posted this to my personal page and everyone has been made aware of her - however due to her displaying behaviour I wouldnāt even expect from a child, she has blocked my personal account and so this is the only way to get this message across to her once and for all.
This is a public message to Vanessa Gray.
Otherwise known on Facebook as āVanya Grayā.
Located in the Chatteris area of March, Cambridgeshire.
Leaving an abusive relationship is hard, isnāt it?
I get it.
Iām so glad you got out before your second anniversary.
I got out of mine at the 5th and trust me, I wish Iād been as lucky as you.
By the sounds of things you had it really rough.
Itās incredibly difficult to have a relationship with someone who is so dangerously insecure.
Being accused of fancying everyone around you and that they must fancy you back.
Youāre having affairs here there and every where while in reality youāre just treading on eggshells.
They embarrass you in front of your friends and family.
They get so deep inside your head that you donāt even realise youāre being abused.
Iām glad your relationship ended the same as mine did.
When someone who could see the signs clearer, help you understand the abuse and who gives you the strength and support to leave your toxic relationship before itās too late.
Your relationship ended because you are a vile, narcissistic abuser and thankfully we were all able to witness the signs first hand.
Your relationship did not end because your ex and I had an affair as you so delightfully enjoy telling people.
Your relationship ended because I saw the abuse you were putting him through and supported him to leave you.
You were never ābannedā from our training sessions, you just chose to hide away behind four walls and a phone screen instead of dealing with things like an adult.
Everyone who attends our training club has been welcome to bring their partners, male or female.
Children are welcome and we pride ourselves on being a family orientated club.
What we donāt allow at our club is abusive behaviour or behaviour which puts our members at risk.
But I think you knew this - hence why you only attended once.
Embarrassing behaviour from a woman in her 40s donāt you think?
You, much like my ex partner, are one of the most insecure humans I have ever had the displeasure of meeting.
Your constant accusations over MONTHS towards his cleaner, his friends, his cousins, his neighbours daughter?
To think you were so insecure about anyone female near your boyfriend to the point you would truly believe anyone else was the problem here, is wild.
This is where I come inā¦ the female dog trainer.
Your hatred towards me from the start, was astonishing.
We know you yelled at him when he booked his first session because you found out the trainer was female.
We know you yelled at him before (and after) the one session you attended.
We know you were offended by how quickly myself and my decoy got on with him which caused you to stand on the side of the field with a sulk on.
We know you hated how much myself, my fiance and my dog club took to him and loved him like heād always been part of the family.
Because thatās exactly what he is to us.
He is family.
Iāve seen first hand not only the torment of what you put him through, but I also know that I only witnessed a very small part of your abuse because his friends, his family and his associates had to witness your horrible treatment of him for even longer.
MONTHS before our training sessions ever took place.
So yes Vanessa, Iām so glad your abusive relationship ended the same way mine did.
Iām glad we could help your ex escape you.
You should see him now, he is flourishing without you.
He has an even bigger family now than he did when you last saw him and not one of them cares for you or your narcissism.
Itās such a shame youāve felt the need to try and shame my name across other dog training platforms and pages in a desperate attempt for attention.
The problem is, youāre not shaming the problem here and not one of us believes or supports your abuse.
I however have no problem shaming a problemā¦ so here is the reaction you have so desperately needed.
Iām a much nicer and much more loved person than you will ever be.
If you wish you shout my name from the rooftops thatās ok - but it works both ways and my voice is a lot louder than yours and mine is heard by a lot more ears.
Hopefully youāll think twice about continuing your miserable train of toxic thoughts down this very old track.
Your harassment is growing tiresome.
Itās nearly been a year since we helped him escape your abusive behaviour.
Please do yourself a favour and move on, we are all so desperately bored of it.
Please also use 2025 to get yourself booked in for some serious therapy.
Itās a shame you didnāt take the girl chat over a brew seriously when I offered it to you before because now Iām just truly embarrassed for you.
I am a very happily engaged woman to an incredibly safe man and I am currently 10 weeks into pregnancy with our first child.
We are incredibly excited to be parents and your ex partner is incredibly excited and very well deserving of becoming an āUncleā.
Iām sorry you didnāt think I was ārespectful to the girl codeā as you so worded it.
Sisterhood exists, but never with an abuser.
On this occasion, I chose to add a brother.
Please do seek professional help Vanessa - your behaviour is beyond embarassing now.
Regards,
Jess.
