11/29/2024
As some of you recall we have discussed performance anxiety, particularly my own disabling fear and anxiety with trialing. But today I was speaking to a psychotherapist (not MY psychotherapist) recently and in conversation he asked me "what do you think the two basic fears humans are born with?" I immediately thought fear of not being loved - but then realized that would be too cognitive. He told me that it is Loud Noises, and the second was a natural or innate fear of falling. Hmmm I thought - kinda neat as I know my new granddaughter really doesn't like loud noises especially loud voices. While at the same time she literally falls All the Time... hahaha. She's actually reaching toddlerhood so Fear must be conquered if she's ever going to learn to walk. I find this so incredible as she is definitely operating outside of her comfort zone -almost EVERY moment of EVERY day.... with repetition, trial and error, more repetition, she will eventually be running across the room! How amazing that an infant/toddler is pushing for progress every day and operating outside her comfort zone to grow and learn and get better. Particularly when falling down is her most frequent result. But then why do we as adults we become sedentary and afraid to do things outside our comfort zone, where growth and success are to be found. New information always leads me to think about many things - 1) of course I wonder what are the two things - if there are 2, that dogs or other mammals genuinely or inherently fear? 2) Does me seeing my toddler granddaughter inspire me to be better - maybe overcome my performance anxiety by making sure I JUST DO IT and get better. That operating outside of my comfort zone is the only way I will change my FEAR into Progress...
So if something is stopping you from doing anything right now - find a child learning to walk and just watch for a while for motivation... hahahaha - even this little guy kept on trying! (sorry I just had to use a clip of a child and a dog..)