05/18/2026
To all my friends, family, chosen family, and community,
Laying here in the hospital has made one thing crystal clear to me: I am deeply, unbelievably loved.
In the middle of fear, exhaustion, uncertainty, and all the chaos life can throw at a person, you all stepped up without hesitation. My dogs are cared for. Elijah is safe, loved, and surrounded by support with 24-hour care. His main caregiver stepped up in ways I will never forget, and his family showed exactly how loved that kid truly is. That means everything to me.
Jeremiah — thank you. Eliza needs you, and you showed up.
Tammy and Tom — thank you for loving Elijah the way you do. Knowing he is surrounded by genuine care gives me peace I cannot even put into words.
Teri — thank you for handling my legal crap while also holding me up emotionally. Your support matters more than you know.
To my Mom, and to a Dad whom I love dearly — thank you for being there through all of this. Family can mean many things in life, but love like yours grounds me.
To my q***r community — my people — I truly could not get through this without you. Gage, Aman, Bobbie, Sandra, Danny, and all my Dayton peeps… thank you for reminding me what chosen family really looks like. The love, messages, support, humor, food, check-ins, and emotional carrying you all have done for me has kept me going.
Sandy and Sherry — thank you, old friends. History matters. Long-term love matters. You matter.
Angela, Emily, and Jenny — thank you especially. I know my dogs are safe with you. That alone would have been enough, but then you all kept showing up in a hundred other ways too — including food, because apparently q***r people process trauma through casseroles and snacks. I love you all deeply.
Constance — thank you for helping make sure Aiko will be okay. Knowing she is safe calms my heart more than you probably realize.
I have spent so much of my life trying to help others, advocate, build communities, and hold people up when they needed it. It is a strange and humbling thing to suddenly be the one needing help. But you all showed me something powerful: the love you put into the world really can come back to hold you when you fall.
And finally, because you all know me well enough to expect this:
IF death comes… y’all better show up in costumes with shovels because dude is GOING DOWN.
I love every single one of you more than words can say.
