
04/23/2025
I’ve been in a bit of a retreat so far this year. I think for many reasons—one of which, and most importantly, is that I’m unwilling to continue sacrificing the little time and bandwidth I have to spend it on everyone else’s critters rather than my own. My family, both animal and human, have been a bit neglected (by my standards) by my own choosing, as I explored my life in the equine professional realm.
With this intentional time to myself and my herd, I’ve come to an unfortunate—and unsurprising—conclusion about how we handle a very common life situation (which 100% translates outside the horse world too):
𝐌𝐚𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐦𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐤𝐞𝐬.
The bottom line is, we’re all going to make mistakes—all the time. Frankly, I’m grateful for all the mistakes I’ve made (and am still making). If we don’t know the wrong answer, how will we ever know the right one?
Thank god the horses are the most forgiving creatures ever. More than us. We’ve really got a thing or two to learn from them on this topic—having grace about making a mistake or not having the right answer. It’s another double standard we often carry like an invisible cloak. We, as a whole (the equine community), do not deserve them.
There’s a really strong polarity in the world right now… obviously.
Also very true in the equine world.
Barefoot or shoes?
Metal or composite?
Riding or not riding?
At what age, and how?
Positive reinforcement or negative?
Can you blend the two?
Tracks or stables?
Turnout or runs?
Sport world or none?
One type of competition or another?
Good god—the list never ends, and each of those can be broken down 20 more times.
And ultimately… maybe all of those are the truth and right thing… because what works for one, may not work for the others!
There’s so much information, misinformation, and opinions presented as facts. This is nothing new. But the resounding hypocrisy that’s intertwined with so much of it is tough to witness.
I’ve never actually met a practitioner who thought, “𝐴𝑙𝑟𝑖𝑔ℎ𝑡… 𝐼’𝑚 ℎ𝑒𝑎𝑑𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑡𝑜 𝑓𝑢𝑐𝑘 𝑠𝑜𝑚𝑒 ℎ𝑜𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑠 𝑢𝑝 𝑡𝑜𝑑𝑎𝑦!”
(Fill in the modality of your choosing.)
Not saying that’s not happening—nor that those people don’t exist. There’s proof of that, unfortunately. Good lord, it’s more prevalent than ever before. But that’s another book for another time.
The point is—the vast majority of us show up doing the best we can with the tools and knowledge we have at that given moment. I see this in an extreme form in the farrier/trimmer world.
So why is it the easiest thing for people to resort to defensiveness and allow ego to completely take over when their work is questioned? Maybe because the way it’s broached is often with malice and harmful intent.
It’s tough to see prominent figures online present their observations and opinions about a previous practitioner as fact. This shows up wrapped in a box of shame, with a bow on top made of hundreds of followers chiming in with praise. Meanwhile, at the core of the message, we’re putting more energy into tearing down another practitioner than into educating about what interventions actually helped the horse.
It just becomes such an incredible detriment to this industry. It strips away any form of people wanting to step up and have accountability for their actions—so that they can find change in their approach. Because even if they want to change, nobody wants to be fu***ng ridiculed by someone who lacks the majority of the context needed to even form an educated opinion—let alone preach facts. Sometimes, social media provides an easy place to form masses of extremists who are ruthless and horrible.
So we’re not setting up a good container for seeing positive changes for the horse.
I wrote this days before the recent, devastating su***de of the veterinarian due to harassment and bullying on social media. I think I feel this all a little deeper now.
I hope I can always be held accountable within my tribe—to continue showing up for the horse through interactions where I’m held with integrity. Not only for the horse, but for the humans around me. 💕