03/13/2025
Missing her extra ….. watching the old man, doesn’t help.
Below a pic of one of our many adventures, on the road to a life as a canine behavior specialist! (Funny, still learn so much from each and every dog I meet)
Not sure how anyone else deals with losses. Feel free to share below!
For us, I’ve taken my time to be sad, then started swimming with dogs again. Didn’t dive right in, pain hurt. Took the time we needed. Work dogs and personal dogs get different parts of me. Often the personal dogs get the broken part, they need to mend. Work dogs get the functioning part of me. It’s a job, must get done. Personal dogs- maybe more likely to lay in bed sad, tending to our own needs, not thinking of the dog first.
Yesterday was 2 months. Still cry every day, but im ok. Living in gratitude, of everything she gave me, helps the most.
Now. I’m looking at Caesar, aging quickly. He turns 10 this year and just lost his best friend too! As we prepare for his senior years along with his isolation anxiety issues, thought I share some of what has helped with us.
How are we dealing?
First - I allowed myself some time, but understand he needs to live life too. Each dog is different. Just as humans, each dog processes life and situations in their own way. Caesar has been amazing to share this road of grief with. He’s taught me so much.
He has been allowed his time to grieve. And now we look at him again as well. He’s been more naughty- and I’ve been allowing some of it. What we allow, we condone. The weaker I am, or the weaker my leadership is, the more the dog will take advantage.
Recently, I’ve been leading with rules and boundaries again. Simple things like door manners and food boundaries, that often matter more than we care to admit.
We are waking him again. Routinely- The walks that he needs - not a potty break. a few miles, lost in the woods.
Sometimes with and sometimes without other dogs. Exercise and fresh air are important to healing.
We grabbed our treat pouch and have done some good old fashioned training sessions. With lots of slobber and jowel towels. His food drive is crazy and we’ve put it to some use lately.
We grabbed his favorite tug! We have trained and played, like we sometimes forget how. It’s good exercise for him and for me! It’s also fun- competitive and releases those endorphins!
Lastly, he’s here by my side. Nice and cozy, cuddled on the couch beside me. He wasn’t always allowed on the couch. Even when Azzura would be, he would not. He was a jerk who I would fight for hierarchy. So clear boundaries for many years this dog had. Anyway, he’s getting more of that too. The pets, the couch time….
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