08/08/2026
Kit is estimated to be around 5 years old and was just recently adopted a few months ago. His owner found her way to me to work on his separation distress - he’s hyper attached to her, she has trouble when leaving him home alone, and he’s very impulsive with his desires.
When I found out that he didn’t even know how to sit, we had to add that into our plan on the second session in order to start implementing some impulse control and slow thinking exercises for his wants and needs.
This is his first session learning how to sit. His owner gives the verbal cue, followed by the hand signal, and then I have her wait. It’s just about a full 10 seconds before he finally puts his butt down. Despite it feeling like an eternity for the owner in this situation, it’s a a VERY crucial moment for a dog to learn something new: giving them the time to think and process and figure it out on their own.
When we don’t give the dog a chance to turn their wheels, trouble shoot, and experiment with their own choices, we rob them of the ability to ingrain this learning deeper. If we helped him too much by offering repeated commands, lures, etc, at this stage we are not doing much to help strengthen the behavior. So many people want the dog to instantly respond. Here, Kit stays actively engaged while he decides what he wants to do. And then he gets it because we offer him patience.
LET. THE. DOG. THINK.
We are so use to faster phones, faster computers, and instant gratification. A brain learning something new doesn’t work at a technological speed. It works at a biological one. Us included. Try learning something new as an adult - it’s not easy! We need time to process. Dogs are the same.
When a new behavior becomes conditioned well enough, of course if you want a faster response time you can work towards that. But in the beginning, honor the brain’s natural processing and allow the dog to truly figure it out as long as they remain engaged. Sacrificing 10 seconds for the sake of the dog feeling empowered to figure something out on their own is nothing to worry about.