12/24/2022
Are you taking your dog with you to visit friends & family this holiday season (or do you have family coming to stay with you)? If so, hereâs your gentle reminder that itâs not fair to ask your dog to be âthe Adult in the Roomâ at family gatherings.
What do we mean by this? Well, you know how we all have one or two relatives who behave in a less-than-lovely manner with your dog? The ones who donât listen to your direction, or who insist on handling or interacting with your dog in the way THEY think is best, regardless of how that makes you or your dog feel?
If you and your dog will be spending time with these particular relatives over the holidays, itâs important that you donât put the burden of responsibility on your dog to deal with or tolerate these unpleasant and unwanted interactions. In other words, Donât Ask Your Dog to Be the Adult in the Room.
Instead, try one of these two approaches to keep your dog safe, comfortable, and out of trouble during family gatherings:
Tactic #1: Speak with your relatives *before they/you arrive* to explain your dogâs current behavior needs or training goals, and ask whether theyâre on board with helping you with stick to them. If you get a resounding yes, proceed cautiously with involving your dog in the festivities (if appropriate), but monitor closely and be prepared to intervene if needed.
Tactic #2: If youâre not comfortable having that discussion, or if your conversation falls flat, opt to put your dog away in another room with lots of yummy bones and chews, a comfy bed, and some white noise. Or, if you have the option, have them go stay at their normal daycare, boarding facility, or a friendâs house during the festivities. If folks ask where your dog is, simply say that theyâre not comfortable with or ready for this type of gathering.