04/23/2025
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So you’ve been bucked off, your toe was stepped on, the horses got out of the pasture and into the feed room, you missed your appointment because the horse wouldn’t load -
You’re mad. What now?
Do not react, do not react, do not react. Breathe.
The first thing many go to doing is reacting. The urge to “do” something quickly and thoughtlessly has lead to worsening many messes. Chasing running horses will not make them stand calmly. Getting after the horse that bucked you off will not connect to the moment it happened in.
The moment is over, the thing is done. There is no taking it back by getting big and angry or “teaching a lesson” that will do anything. The only lesson to be learned here is yours. I know it sucks, but just breathe.
Now, calmly gather up the horses. Close the trailer door. Check yourself for injury. Whatever needs doing, do it as calmly as you can. The horse is probably out eating grass somewhere and isn’t living in the same mind frame you are - the moment is gone, now grass. So breathe, go catch the horses, clean up the mess, whatever you need to do.
Now- what was missed? Why did the horses get out? Why wouldn’t the horse load? Why did you get air time today? What’s the step that needs to be taken now to prevent this from happening again?
Sometimes we get so wrapped up in the mistake we forget to adjust what caused it. Do we need to lock the feed room door? Do we need to practice loading maybe weeks before the appointment? Did our horse get spooked and needs some confidence building, maybe our seat needs a tune up?
The rest of the workload after repairing what was damaged needs to go toward prevention and education. Consult help if you need it, either for your fencing, training, riding, whatever needs doing.
But taking a moment to calmly sort through a mess is a very valuable life skill-
Rule number one, breathe, don’t just react. Think, then act, then work toward prevention.
Here’s Mr Delton taking a few breaths after having some trouble with his patience