11/30/2022
This subject is a touchy one and a deep one too… but I'm only going to brush the surface because I want you to get curious and explore it yourself!
I want you to ask yourself what respect from your horse means to you… then I want you to ask yourself what you think respecting you or the "lead mare" means to your horse.
Respect seems to be the magic word these days… get your horse to respect you and he will do A B and C no questions asked.
A lot of training programs talk about getting your horse's respect so much that we come to believe respect is all we need to have a safe and successful relationship with our horses…..
I see lots of people struggle with these programs and they start to think if they can get the horse's respect like the lead mare everything will fall into place.
What if I told you that herd dynamics are a lot more intricate than we are commonly taught? And that "being the lead mare" whether it's the way we are taught she is or not … isn't quite a great way to approach horse training.
Why not?
So this is the part I encourage you to experiment with- watch the horse in the herd that gets moved around by the dominant/pushy horse of the herd and see how that horse responds to being moved around, and if that's something you would like to ride and if you would feel safe riding.
What I normally see when this happens is that the horse usually gets grumpy about being moved around, kicked at, bit at, etc.
And will swish their tail, half heartedly kick or bite back, or pin their ears at the other horse. Is this the kind of behavior you are looking for in your horse? Because this is how the horse treats the so-called leader.
I have had people come to me and say- my horse spooks on the trail, I'm his leader and he respects me so shouldn't he be relaxed like me?!
Let's look at it this way…
If there is a large herd of horses out grazing in the wild and a mountain lion is sneaking up on the horse to the left and the "lead mare" is way over to the right and doesn't notice- do you think the horse on the left is going to hang out with the mountain lion nice and calm until the lead horse notices?
No
That horse is going to alert the whole herd of that mountain lion… and now that horse is the leader for the moment.
If you want your horse to be confident on the trail or anywhere…
Your horse needs guidance from you, he needs to know you are trustworthy and understanding of where his thresholds are and how to help him from there. He needs to know you are not going to get in his way, he needs to know you are not going to pull him off balance if he gets scared, he needs to know you are not going to cause him pain.
And most importantly he needs to know what your aids mean, he needs to understand how he is supposed to respond. He needs to be balanced and comfortable.
Even if the herd dynamics worked the way we are commonly taught … the lead mare doesn't ride the horses. She's not teaching them what reins mean, how to be balanced and carry a rider.
Horsemanship is a lifelong journey that takes dedication, patience, determination, practice, skill, open mindedness, and a humble nature. It can not be taught in 30, 60, or 90 days.
If you want to be a true horseman and get true results and have happy horses it's not going to happen by getting your horse's respect.