03/28/2026
Last night I needed to get out of the house and decided to take one of our fosters Camo for a walk. Camo is one of the most reactive and intense dogs I’ve ever dealt with and I’d be lying if I said I always feel like I know what to do to help him. All I knew last night for certain was that he needed to get out and use his brain and his body. I went into our time together with visions of what it should look like, and pretty quickly upon arrival the plan changed. I wanted to go for a walk. 2 miles. 4500 steps. But when we hopped out of the car he couldn’t focus on anything but pulling. I wanted to use food to train obedience, Camo couldn’t have cared about food in that moment if his life depended on it. I wanted to work closer to the store we parked near, Camo needed more space so we moved further back. I tried my best to get the session I had planned, but quickly saw that my dream for our time together didn’t match what Camo needed from me in the moment, so we switched gears. I pulled out the tug and let him work through the frustration and overstimulation he was facing in that environment through a couple rounds of tug and pretty quickly I had a dog who could hear me again. I was holding the thing that he wanted to engage with in that moment that met his needs for the situation I asked him to be in with me. I probably got about 4 sits, 3 downs, and 12 steps of engaged loose leash walking in total and the rest of the time we just played. Eventually we sat down for a water break and took in the sights and sounds of the world moving all around us, before heading home happier than we left. I share this, because I think it’s really important to remember that when you love anyone who struggles behaviorally the most meaningful way to show that love is to be willing to adjust your expectations and listen to what they need. Someday me and Camo will go for the walk I wanted, but only if I listen when he tells me what he needs today. It’s easy to have dreams about your life with your dog, just make sure those dreams reflect who that dog is and what they’re currently capable of. Today it was 12 steps, tomorrow 20, 4500 eventually. But only if I can accept 12 today.