06/06/2026
Red flags in character
🚨 One of the biggest red flags in a person’s character is what they do after they leave.
Some people don’t know how to leave a relationship, friendship, church, or ministry without trying to destroy the reputation of the people they left behind.
I’ve learned that mature people can disagree, disconnect, and move on without launching a character assassination campaign.
🔥 Immature people can’t.
If someone has to tear another person down in order to justify their departure, that’s usually a sign that something unhealthy is going on in their own heart. Slandering someone doesn’t make you look better. It doesn’t validate your choices. It simply reveals your character.
Jesus modeled a completely different spirit.
“For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.” (John 3:17 NIV)
Notice that Jesus spoke truth, but He wasn’t driven by a desire to destroy people. His goal was restoration.
Sadly, I see many Christians who seem more passionate about exposing people than loving them. More interested in finding faults than bearing fruit. More concerned with winning arguments than representing Jesus Christ.
Here’s a simple life principle: if someone constantly talks to you about other people, they will eventually talk about you to other people.
Pay attention to how people speak about those they no longer associate with. It will tell you a lot about their level of maturity.
You don’t have to agree with everyone. You don’t have to stay connected to everyone. But you do need to guard your heart and your tongue.
Spiritual maturity is being able to walk away without needing to burn everything down behind you. 💛
-Tammy Larck
Choose to bless, release, and move on instead of tearing people down. Take the HIGH ROAD. There are too many Authentic Jesus filled connections out there to stay tethered to those who trash other people and their character. Be on guard with the people and the places you choose to connect with. Don't be fooled by their social media presence, the crowds they attract, the fancy things they may flaunt, the money they throw out carelessly, the lack of values for their family, and faith. If that's what you choose to surround yourself; do a check up from the neck up. Validation from people shows insecurity. Insecurity will drive you down the wrong path. Stop pouring into people who do not respect you, what you know, or what you bring to the table. There are others out there that will truly appreciate your God given gifts, talents, and the truth you speak. Do not chase after fake for that will draw you away from your faith. Do not feel the pressure from those who are impatient. Stay rooted in Christ Jesus.
Find rest in the Ultimate Trainer 💜
-Jessica Shively