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Why are we (dog trainers) STILL recommending and using harnesses that cut into the pits and cut across the shoulders? Es...
04/13/2025

Why are we (dog trainers) STILL recommending and using harnesses that cut into the pits and cut across the shoulders? Especially those of us who truly understand how discomfort & pain affect our pups?

Of course, safety is a big factor, especially with a dog who pulls and is big & strong. Ticking both the comfort & safety boxes is super important, so how do we do that?

Haven’t we been doing that for decades while also promoting pain free training? Why would it be any different for what a dog wears while walking? We come down hard on prongs and shocks/e-collars because of the fallout we know to be true. Why is it different for harnesses that cause discomfort and hit some very sensitive areas on our dogs?

The ONLY two reasons I can think of for using a harness that isn’t comfortable for a dog is for control of their movement/suppressing behaviors and accessibility/cost prohibitive. Right? If we claim it’s for safety of a dog’s person because the dog is big & strong, thats still using a tool in order to suppress behaviors. Let’s say it like it is. True, it can be extremely dangerous for anyone to be pulled by a dog, I’m not saying anything different. I’m just saying that if that’s the reason, then we need to admit we are suppressing behavior by the use of an uncomfortable piece of equipment.

The first 3 photos are of solid, strong, powerful dogs wearing a comfortable and safe harness and not pulling even though one is reactive, one is a young puppy, and one wants to chase everything that moves. It’s not that it can’t be done or taught.

The last 2 photos are of two very popular harnesses used on just about every dog in my local area and highly recommended and sold by trainers. I make no apologies for saying we need to do better before recommending products that do the exact opposite of what we stand for (or claim to stand for in some cases-again, not sorry).

I’ll be at TAOS JAVA today from 10-12 with my dog Vinney The Whippet’s harness if you’d like to check it out and discuss a different way of having better walks and offering our pup’s more comfort and less suppression.

DM me if you’re not local and want more discussion.

I’ve noticed a small, subtle behavior change in Vin over the last few months and was thinking it was discomfort or pain ...
03/11/2025

I’ve noticed a small, subtle behavior change in Vin over the last few months and was thinking it was discomfort or pain either from his teeth or his lower back. Did the vet visit and he got a clean bill of health except for gum recession above his upper incisors, requiring dental x-rays and dental at some point. Doesn’t seem to be causing pain, however.

Yesterday, he was able to join in on a case study for a friend studying Osteopathy. She located his pain source and we are starting on a solution. He already is moving better and his back, pelvis, and hips are moving nicer and I can tell he feels a bit better.

I talk about health effecting behavior in us and our dogs all the time…Vinney is a great example of this. My friend asked me what I wanted for my dog and the first thing that came out of my mouth, without thinking, ā€œI want him to be comfortable.ā€ And then, of course I cried and shared that I hate that he’s in pain and my desire to remove that pain so he can feel better.

Here I am, again😬, encouraging us all to pay attention to behavior change as it coincides with a possible body change, underlying health issue, or injury. Many of the clients I work with explain behaviors that could very well be due to changing health, growing, aging, or injury. Sometimes, traumatic for the dog events.

When it’s clear pain or discomfort in a dog’s body is present, it’s so wise to seek veterinary care first, before trying to train the behavior change out of our dogs. Listening to their bodies and what their body language/behavior is telling us is a wonderful gift we have full control over.

Here’s Vin enjoying a big duck neck after visiting our friend and the rest of his night of relaxation 🄰

Here’s your friendly reminder that food deprivation in order to achieve behavior change is animal cruelty.Using food as ...
12/29/2024

Here’s your friendly reminder that food deprivation in order to achieve behavior change is animal cruelty.

Using food as a lure to help get a pup started with learning a new skill is not deprivation. Using food as a reward for something well done is not deprivation. Using food to reinforce behaviors we love is not deprivation.

Withholding food until a dog is so hungry they’ll do anything for food is deprivation. Giving only a small portion of food to keep the dog hungry so they appear eager to train is deprivation. A dog visibly losing weight during a board n train because the ā€œtrainerā€ only offers food during ā€œtrainingā€ sessions is deprivation. Making a dog stay in one place, not allowing them to move, tethered to the wall, setting them up to fail by calling them over for food that they are desperate for, and shocking them when they try hopelessly to get to the food is deprivation. And all of that is cruel. All of it.

If your trainer or board n train is telling you to feed only a very small portion of your dog’s regular meal so they’re extra hungry for sessions, ask them why that’s necessary. If they are only luring with food but not rewarding with food, ask them why. If your dog is at a board n train who uses food to coerce behavior change, ask for photos every day. A full body side view and from the top so you can see any visible changes. If you’re not sure about methods of behavior modification prior to dropping your dog off, ask a lot of questions and if you don’t get answers that make science sense, do more research prior to dropping your precious pup off. You’re paying big money for this service, your dog deserves to be treated with understanding, compassion, knowledge, and kindness…not cruelty.

Once I receive the okay to share my top two board n trains, I’ll edit this post. In the meantime, a couple green flags:
•clear and regular communication including photos/videos
•clear understanding of methods and tools used with your dog (positive reinforcement, fear free, force free, welfare focused, punishment, e-collar/shock collar, martingale, harness, flat collar, slip lead, prong collar, etc)

Discuss in the comments.

Is your dog getting enough of this?The amount of sleep our pups need depends on their age, activity level, size/breed, h...
12/20/2024

Is your dog getting enough of this?

The amount of sleep our pups need depends on their age, activity level, size/breed, health, and other factors.

Puppies use more energy and their bodies are still growing, so it’s not unusual for a puppy to sleep up to 18 hours a day. It’s pretty normal, during a one hour puppy training session, for a puppy to need multiple rest breaks or naps. I don’t often work with a puppy for more than 10 minutes at a time so they don’t get overly tired 🄱

Adult dogs might sleep 12–14 hours a day. Some sleep even more than that, like who sleeps 16+ hours after a big day. Whippets are notoriously pretty lazy dogs as they have race car engines and need to conserve their energy for the sprints they’re known for.

Senior dogs may require more sleep to help their bodies recover from daily activities and body changes. Some senior pups might like to sleep in and be in bed by a certain time.

Larger breeds of dogs might sleep like a puppy, up to 18 hours a day.

Dogs are polyphasic sleepers, meaning they snooze throughout the day in between activities. Sleep is important for all sentient beings so we can process information, rest our brains, and recharge.

If you notice a sudden or big change in your pup’s sleep, please consider talking with your vet. Changes in sleep can sometimes indicate an underlying health concern.

By the way, if a dog is resting or asleep, please let them be. Touching or petting a dog while they are sleeping could startle or surprise them into a reaction that involves their teeth. Just like us, when we are startled awake, our bodies may have reactions we can’t control like a fast beating heart. Let sleeping dogs lie 🄰 and avoid that surprising and potentially dangerous situation.

How much do you think your pups sleep every day? Vinney snoozes about 16-18 hours a day, depending on if he’s out with me or if he stays home, if he had an opportunity to take a good run, or if he just has yard time without running.

Let me know your thoughts on your pup’s sleep in the comments šŸ‘‡

TODAY, Vinney The Whippet and I will be fundraising at the Mutt Strut at Taos Ski Valley  for Taos Feral Feline Friends ...
08/31/2024

TODAY, Vinney The Whippet and I will be fundraising at the Mutt Strut at Taos Ski Valley for Taos Feral Feline Friends FREE spay/neuter clinic by sharing his secret to becoming an amazing walking partner!

His secret is hinted at in photos 2 & 3 šŸ˜‰ except his favorite piece of equipment is $8-$10, nothing fancy needed!

Want to teach your pup how to walk differently? Come see us for a demo and if you like what we’re putting down, donate a $ tip to TFFF, nice trade, right?!

We can’t wait to meet you and your pup and happy to offer training tips for any challenges you’re having. Let’s toss that frustration you and your dog might be feeling and replace it with information that can help bring more joy to the time you and your best dog pal spend together 🄰

See you soon!

So very grateful for everyone who stopped by  yesterday to ask me questions about their dog’s behaviors. It’s wonderful ...
08/18/2024

So very grateful for everyone who stopped by yesterday to ask me questions about their dog’s behaviors. It’s wonderful when we can set our expectations aside and allow ourselves to try to gain further understanding about WHY a behavior is happening.

The most asked question was:
ā€œHow do I get my dog(s) to stop pulling on walks?ā€

The general answer:
Let’s look at comfort and safety of gear, the environmental factors, then work on building reinforcement history around engagement with the person on the other end of the leash with fewer distractions.

Some great discussions were had and take aways were:
-Working on engagement inside off leash first can remove distractions and frustration with lack of focus.
-Forging forward or pulling isn’t necessarily too much confidence but maybe a lack of confidence or even fear.
-Understanding our dog’s body language, recognizing what our dogs are telling us, and acting accordingly while on walks is huge.
-Making sure what our dogs are wearing isn’t uncomfortable or causing pain.
-When discomfort or pain are present when our dogs see another dog (or something they may react harshly to), it’s important to remove those icky feelings so our dogs aren’t associating other dogs with feeling icky.
-Avoiding distractions or real world practice isn’t always practical or recommended, but allowing our dogs to encounter multiple triggers and expect them to stay under threshold or learn while over threshold isn’t fair.
-Controlling our dogs is uncool, but controlling their environment or their bubble is super cool.

If you have any questions specific to your dog(s), reach out via DM and let’s see if we can work on lowering frustrations (yours + your dogs) and expectations. Gaining understanding about what our dogs could be experiencing & why can be very helpful when undesirable behaviors are showing up.

If you got something from this post, please consider donating even a few dollars to my fundraiser under this post or checking out their website and donating thereā™„ļøšŸ•ā™„ļø
https://taoshoundunderground.org

Want to know why your pup is doing what they’re doing? Come grab a cuppa your favorite Taos Java beverage and let’s figu...
08/17/2024

Want to know why your pup is doing what they’re doing?

Come grab a cuppa your favorite Taos Java beverage and let’s figure it out!

I’d love to help you end frustration and gain understanding about WHY your pup does what they do and offer practical solutions to support your journey with your dog family.

Come on by TODAY 9:30am-12:00pm for a FREE DOG TRAINER Q+A. Of course tips and donations greatly appreciated and all šŸ’°will benefit homeless dogs of Taos County through 🄰

Hope to see you soon!

Oh! I also have some pretty awesome martingale collars and double handled leashes. You can ask me for gear recommendations to help your pup feel more comfy and you feel safe while out with your pup.

How are your walks with your dog going?Is your pup enjoying the explore? Are they given opportunities to stop and sniff ...
08/13/2024

How are your walks with your dog going?

Is your pup enjoying the explore? Are they given opportunities to stop and sniff or put their paws on things?

Or is your pup more of a ā€œLet’s move it! I gotta go! Places to be!ā€ kind of walker?

Lately, has been a bit of both and it’s interesting to me (his slow walking leash holder) how he can be both on the same walk. Dogs are such great multitaskers!

Vin likes to walk ahead of me, sniffing the whole time, get about 5 feet shy of the end of the long line, and run back to play with me or lean on me (a way he checks in if I’m walking super slow).

I love the way he walks because he gets to go his pace + do his dog things (which includes being very nosey, nicknamed Mrs. Kravitz for a reason), and I’m able to hold my own pace + take in the entire environment/view.

We worked really hard for two years dialing in how we walk together and it’s paid off in very big ways. Some of you might remember Vinney had 2 broken knees as a puppy and was limited. No dog interactions, so when he started seeing dogs on walks, it was overstimulating. His first 2 years was all about healing him and engagement with me so that by the time he was able to be around other dogs, run free and do all the things, we were already working as a team.

It started inside, off leash. Everything I’ve ever taught this boy started inside with a 30 second session, and reaped big rewards (mostly play). šŸ‘‰Building a reinforcement history with really fun engagement has been the keyšŸ—ļø

Vinney is a wonderful walker + easy to live with dog. We continue to engage multiple times a day to keep us a solid team and I freaking love this dog and love doing stuff with him, and I’m kind of his whole world so we make it a great day everyday we have together ā™„ļø

If your pup is having a hard time hearing you, you’ve got a puller, or you just want to refresh your relationship with your dog, I’m here for you and have some practical solutions that don’t involve discomfort or pain for you or your dog.

DM, text 626-673-7978, email [email protected]
https://taosdogtrainer.com

This is Vinney The Whippet wearing his Balance Harness by Blue-9 Pet Products It’s possible to use a harness that offers...
08/12/2024

This is Vinney The Whippet wearing his Balance Harness by Blue-9 Pet Products

It’s possible to use a harness that offers complete range of motion, comfort, + safety versus offering restricted movement of shoulders & front limbs, discomfort, and wellness concerns (hitting armpits, chaffing, cutting across shoulders, too tight, too loose, puts pressure on abdomen or throat).

Are we leaning on our dog’s gear as a way to control our dog like a steering wheel controls the direction of a car? Or are we out for safety like a seatbelt keeps us secure?
If it’s the latter, then I look at what harness will offer that specific dog the most comfort while keeping them safe.
If we are looking for control, ie: stop pulling, keep the dog closer, etc., there are steps to build leash skills and desirable behaviors. Some say harnesses CAUSE pulling. The harness itself isn’t likely the cause, there can be many causes and working with a professional trainer can really help.
šŸ‘‰A trainer who understands how a dog’s body works and won’t recommend restricting movement/suppressing behavior with gear*. A trainer who can help you figure out why your dog is pulling. A trainer who understands how and why specific harnesses work and can clearly explain.

*some harnesses are designed to restrict natural movement, causing discomfort or pain, which can = behavior suppression, frustration, and morešŸ‘Ž

Harness manufacturers claim their harness ā€œstops pullingā€, well, if a harness doesn’t cause it, a harness isn’t going to stop it, either. šŸ¤·ā€ā™€ļø Another reason to work with a professional trainer.

If a dog’s harness is doing any of those things mentioned at the topšŸ‘†, or if you are recommending/selling a harness that is doing those things, please please consider HOW and WHY they work and consider taking a look at The Dog Wellness Centre 🄰

Have ?s please DM or drop a commentšŸ‘‡



As a side note: the lower abdomen or groin should NEVER be used to control a dog! Please 🚨DO NOT🚨 wrap a leash around a dog’s belly or groin area🚫

07/04/2024

The music of Lisa of My Zen Pet has worked really nicely for my pup, Vinney, who used to be terrified of fireworks and thunder. After years of helping him through big booms, he’s much much better but they’re still big booms and scary so I’ll be turning on Dog Gone Calm for him tonight.
Hope this helps you and your pups 🄰

Big Joe and I will be hanging out at Kit Carson Park today, come say hi and enjoy this free event + movie night!Tap on t...
06/26/2024

Big Joe and I will be hanging out at Kit Carson Park today, come say hi and enjoy this free event + movie night!
Tap on the post for detailsšŸ‘‡šŸ‘‡šŸ‘‡

I’m not feeling real šŸŒˆā™„ļøšŸ¦‹ right now, so I’m just gonna say it…Two weeks ago I held Beans and heard her final heartbeat. ...
06/07/2024

I’m not feeling real šŸŒˆā™„ļøšŸ¦‹ right now, so I’m just gonna say it…

Two weeks ago I held Beans and heard her final heartbeat. 10 days later, I held Ryder for the last time and I am completely shattered.

To lose Ryder at 9 years young and just 10 days after losing Beans is nothing I ever expected. There’s no way to prepare for two dogs back to back, tears nowhere near dry after the first.

I’m mostly crushed, devastated, flattened, heartbroken, but also angry. Angry that Ryder had to go through so much fear, anxiety, couldn’t run his last few years, and couldn’t have one day without a bunch of meds to keep him alive. I’m angry that there will be more after him who will go through this exact same fate because nobody ever says anything and keeps buying his young relatives.

ā€¼ļøšŸ‘‰Whippets should not be dead before 10 years old!!!šŸ‘ˆā€¼ļø

Before you support a breeder by buying one of their pups, please do your homework. I did not. I thought I was getting a healthy dog, a dog I’d have into old age. I have zero regrets and wouldn’t change one thing about Ryder and our time together, but I certainly do not want to ever have to deal with messy genetics again, and if I get messy genetics, it should be by choice because I have all the information.

I want to know if a sire has fears of flies, if heart testing was done at 3 yrs or 6 yrs, if there’s history of half siblings dying at 8 yrs. Not big selling points for those puppies, I get it. But how about stop breeding those things into your line, knowingly, so you have to then hold info secret to sell your pups. It’s an idea šŸ’”

I’ll let the anger go soon, but will never stop advocating for full transparency by whippet breeders in the way of adding to WHF and whippet archives (age of health screenings and reason for death, esp) and dammit be a decent freaking human being. Stop causing additional heartache, it’s hard enough losing a dog as it is.

My Ryder deserved better. He deserved to feel good and run forever and now he can. He is so so missed ā™„ļøšŸ„ŗā™„ļø

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*Not about breeders vs rescue. Don’t make it.

It would be super if I and my dogs can catch even a tiny bit of a break. Ryder isn’t feeling well and has been vomiting ...
05/31/2024

It would be super if I and my dogs can catch even a tiny bit of a break. Ryder isn’t feeling well and has been vomiting since 6am, on our way to Alpine Vet in Alamosa. So grateful they can see us ā™„ļø

Please send my sweet boy some love and good wishes that this is nothing šŸ¤žšŸ«¶

🐶

Let’s talk harnesses! šŸ¤©šŸ¦®šŸ¤—I’ve tried many on many dogs and I like the ones that offer a dog complete range of motion, com...
05/15/2024

Let’s talk harnesses! šŸ¤©šŸ¦®šŸ¤—

I’ve tried many on many dogs and I like the ones that offer a dog complete range of motion, comfort, + safety. The ones I don’t like restrict movement of shoulders & front limbs, appear to cause discomfort, and could be a safety concern (hitting armpits, chaffing, cutting across shoulders, too tight, too loose, puts pressure on abdomen or throat potentially causing short term or long term harm).

Lets look at the whys:
Are we leaning on our dog’s gear as a way to control our dog like a steering wheel controls the direction of a car? Or are we out for safety like a seatbelt keeps us secure?
If it’s the latter, then I look at what harness will offer that specific dog the most comfort while keeping them safe.
If we are looking for control, ie: stop pulling, keep the dog closer, etc., there are steps to build leash skills and desirable behaviors and working with a professional trainer can really help. A trainer who understands how a dog’s body works and won’t recommend restricting movement*.

Some say harnesses cause pulling. The harness itself isn’t likely the cause, there can be many causes. Others, like harness makers, say their harness ā€œstops pullingā€, well, if a harness doesn’t cause it, a harness isn’t going to stop it, either. šŸ¤·ā€ā™€ļø Another reason to work with a professional trainer. A trainer who understands how and why specific harnesses work and can clearly explain.

If a dog’s harness is squeezing, chaffing, pinching, too tight, too loose and moving, cutting across or hitting shoulders, or if you are recommending a harness that is doing those things, please please consider HOW and WHY they work and consider taking a look at The Dog Wellness Centre 🄰

Have ?s please DM or drop a commentšŸ‘‡

*some harnesses are designed to restrict natural movement, causing discomfort or pain, which can = behavior suppression and frustration…opposite of how id like a dog to experience a walk 🄺 + opposite of how I choose to work with dogs. As a side note: the lower abdomen should NEVER be used to control a dog! Please 🚨DO NOT🚨 wrap a leash around a dog’s belly🚫

Blue-9 Pet Products

🚨ADOPTABLE DOG ALERT🚨Polkadot is such an amazing pup!She’s very sweet, affectionate, energetic with a nice off switch, h...
04/28/2024

🚨ADOPTABLE DOG ALERT🚨
Polkadot is such an amazing pup!
She’s very sweet, affectionate, energetic with a nice off switch, has hops & jumps (athletic), she laughs at all the jokes and tells good ones, but also makes a good deadpan face, she’s a very easy keeper - eats well, can sleep anywhere, loves being brushed, has been great with other dogs, and so much more. Her favorite thing is to be with her humans and go on car rides. She’s the perfect sidekick šŸ‘
Polkadot has been spayed, is fully vaccinated, microchipped, disease + parasite free. Every dog adopted through THU comes with a contract/adoption agreement, two free training sessions, and lifetime behavior support. We use Fear Free, Force Free, Positive Reinforcement methods of care and training. Adoption fee is $150.
If you or someone you know in NM, AZ, TX, OK, CO is interested in learning more or adopting her, contact Taos Hound Underground via messenger, call/text 575-613-3066, email [email protected]
To submit an application to adopt her or any of the other awesome THU pups or make a tax deductible donation, go here:
https://taoshoundunderground.org
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