04/05/2026
Maybe we just get back what we put in?
The horse is a constant return of what we are willing to put in.
A horse’s brain operates more like a muscle than the human brain which is very complex. So essentially, the more we exercise a horse’s mind in a particular manner, the stronger that attribute gets.
I was thinking about this today.
We had a horse come in in the past that we were told was not social, was a recluse, wasn’t a people oriented type of a horse.
That’s fine, there a many like that and that’s quite alright.
When I was working with this horse upon his arrival, he repeatedly made an attempt to connect with me.
He would place his nose on me, or extend his head forward to touch my body, my tools, to just try to comprehend what I was doing.
Each time he made a connection to me, I pat his neck, or touched him physically. Scratching his neck. Rubbing his forehead. Around the ears, you know? The itchy spots.
Our first session was a lot of me softening the horse, seeing his familiarity with my tools, seeing what he knew and what he didn’t. Basically—I just wanted to know where to start.
This was a horse that had only been in work for about 6 months to a year. Up until then, had no handling or familiarity of people. At all. But at this point he knew how to ride.
I noticed in this session, this horse kept trying to connect with me. To touch me, to see what I was, to figure out what I was all about. Each time he did, I reciprocated. If you’re uncertain about me, I’ll let you have the time to see what I am. I’ll show you that I’m a friend.
The next day, as I went to fill up water. He spotted me from across the pasture and met me at the trough. He stayed a while until I finished my work. As I walked away, followed me about 200 feet.
I finally turned around to see a very inquisitive horse standing right beside me. I reached up and gave him a good rub.
Within a matter of days, this supposed antisocial and aloof animal was just about as in your pocket as I’d respectfully allow.
It was a light bulb moment for me. These horses are giving back to us what we are encouraging, building on, and acknowledging.
This wasn’t a disconnected or super independent horse. This was a horse that makes attempts to connect, and no one was reciprocating.
We have so much power to influence these animals.
We really are getting back what we are giving.