06/13/2025
One must be in control of one’s self first.
Control vs. Controlling
Being in control is very different from being controlling.
Having control of your horse means they willingly follow your guidance. They choose to respond to your aids because they trust your leadership. This kind of control is essential not only for safety but also for true enjoyment in riding. Proper control doesn’t restrict the horse — it brings out their best abilities and allows them to perform with freedom, balance, and confidence. This is the art of riding.
Much like a skilled saxophone player controls their instrument — managing breath, timing, and expression to shape the music — a rider must also possess self-control. The rider's mind and body must be disciplined, balanced, and aware. To have genuine control over another being, you must first master control over yourself.
In contrast, being controlling is the opposite. A controlling rider lacks self-control, often blaming the horse for mistakes that stem from their own instability or frustration. Their attempts to force submission limit the horse’s physical and mental ability to perform with ease, grace, and harmony.
True control inspires confidence and partnership.
Controlling behavior suppresses ability and erodes trust.
