06/01/2025
So often in our world, it's discussed how no is a very important word that should be respected - listened to. How it's a good thing to speak up about something you don't like, be it a little or a lot...
Going off of that thought, why is it that commonly horses aren't allowed to say no without it resulting in being ignored?
There's a lot of situations where "no" can create a risky situation when that no is a hard no of explosive nature. That one is one of a horse that's learned it can't simply just voice its opinion about a discomfort or minor dislike of something.
There is a line of let it go and reaffirm the 'okay. I understand you don't like it, but let's open up a negotiation about this.' 'How can we turn your hard no into a maybe? That maybe into a let's try it? Can we turn it into a yes with some time?'
This guy had been sedated for about 16 years for his trims. A level of sedation that would render him quite unstable and STILL voicing his distaste of getting his hooves done and adding a distaste for the vet because he knew what was coming. Before having been sedated, this guy was in a stock.
My first evaluation of this guy, I didn't even trim him. I spent time on the ground just asking him for his feet on his terms to create a mutual ground where he didn't feel like he needed to dip and dash. 30 minutes. 30 minutes it took to hold one or two hooves up for more than just a few seconds.
This photo is this guys first unsedated trim in forever. There were a few times where there were determined hard "no"s that were graced with a pause of 'let's think about this'
We left the chaps out of the equation. No flappy farrier smelling things (the smell on me the first interaction paired with me touching his neck set him off). We kept the stand out of the question with the hinds as he wasn't a fan. Small things we can do without.
The best thing?
We got it done. He was left more comfortable. And he at the end wasn't wishing to dip even though he was hitting his threshold.
Normalize no being an option and an opening for a discussion - sometimes the answer is simply just trimming them with their legs low. Other times, it's just them needing to know that you hear them, and that you're willing to negotiate and adapt with them.