01/29/2024
How do you fix an unwanted behavior? Don’t let it happen in the first place
This is a concept that, admittedly, was utterly mind blowing when I was first introduced to it. Prior to seeing it in action, I had been working in pretty combative ways with a horse. I didn’t realize that at the time, of course, as I was just focusing on training - a horse does something you don’t want, you fix it, correct it, etc.
I didn’t understand at the time that this is a pretty demoralizing experience from anyone’s standpoint, to only hear feedback when you’re wrong, to run into a lot of no’s when you simply were doing what seemed like the best idea.
When I met Brent Graef Horsemanship years ago, my first clinic experience was with a very upside down, bolting and upset horse. “Set it up so he can win,” Brent kept saying. I really didn’t understand just how deep that meaning could go, but in that weekend my horse softened and relaxed tremendously through asking him for things he could do instead of fighting with him- if he was prone to speeding up somewhere, Brent asked me to get ahead of it and lengthen his stride there before he sped up. If he was prone to freezing somewhere, that was where a halt was added, but done with softness. These little things sprinkled throughout the day softened his defenses and I suddenly had a horse who no longer wanted to bolt.
Before this I had been asking for advice on how to curb the bolting - what do I do when? Brent really drove home that you don’t wait for the when - you set it up so it doesn’t happen in the first place.
There’s no experience that really drives this point home than learning halter starting from Brent. Every single second in these young horses training is set up to create the best outcome, and to prevent unwanted outcomes. You don’t wait for things to go wrong, but you get ahead of them: support, use your environment creatively, think a little, observe a lot, and most of all, stay flexible.
How do you fix a behavior? Don’t let it happen in the first place.
This is something with enough depth to keep me busy for a lifetime understanding.