09/15/2025
Horse Shows, Revisited
I used to compete a lot, almost every summer weekend: decades ago in Quarter Horse shows, Appaloosa shows, and Morgan shows, later in dressage shows, most recently in Western dressage. But I have not competed, except in online shows, for a couple of years now. Why?
Because going to larger, recognized shows is beyond the budget of me and my clients now - and beyond the budget of most horse owners, really.
Because being competitive at such shows, in any discipline, is not realistic for most horses, no matter how well tained they are, including my own horse and my clients’ horses.
But even smaller, local shows - if we’re lucky enough to still have them - don’t mean what they used to for many of us. Most of my current clients don’t feel the need to see their horses perform in public. This does not mean they’ve lost their desire to learn, or they’re not serious about their horsemanship anymore. They want to be the best horsewomen (and horsemen) they can possibly be, but without the pressure of being judged. They spend a lot of money on their horses, and on their horses’ education. They don’t want to spend even more on entry fees, trailering, exorbitant membership dues, overpriced 10 by 10 stalls, and too much junk food - all in exchange for a weekend of too little sleep, a lot of stress, snarky comments from a judge who has no idea how far they or their horses have come, and, in the end, maybe, a couple of ribbons to hang on the tack room wall.
I could try harder to talk my students into showing their horses, but I hesitate. For me, taking client horses to shows has always meant a lot of extra work. And it’s not even paid work. I’ve never charged day fees for shows, as a way to keep them affordable to my clients, but shows still take me away from the barn, which means losing what I would earn if I stayed home.
Also, competition brings out the worst in me: all my old insecurities, all my feelings of not riding well enough, of not belonging, of not being worthy. It feels good to take a break from these complicated emotions. I don’t miss them at all.
Nor do I miss the packed schedule. Not showing has freed up my calendar for other activities: I’m dipping my toes into endurance riding and trail riding. I’m participating in clinics. I’m teaching clinics. And I even spend an occasional weekend with my husband. I am working a little less, but in spite of that, I’ve been able to save up enough money to buy a horse of my own. All of this feels good. Sane. More sustainable. And yet, after sitting out a couple of show seasons, I can’t and won’t say I’m done with competing for the rest of my life.
What do I miss about shows?
I miss what they can teach horses: more confidence and a better work ethic, along with practical skills, like tolerating scary new arenas, working in crowds, loading, and standing tied. I miss what they can teach riders - things like arena etiquette, focus, respect for others. I also miss the camaraderie I’ve experienced at some shows. Coming together at the fairgrounds for a weekend can bring us out of our isolated and separate barn bubbles. I miss being a part of the horse community. And I know that, if everyone does what I’ve been doing, there will not be much of a a horse community anymore. There will only be splintered factions.
The horse industry as a whole has shifted toward building relationships with horses, rather than using them as sports equipment. This is a welcome, positive trend. But I wonder: is there a way to bring back what is good about shows, without the hyper-competitive excess, with more consideration of what is fair to horses?
There are no easy answers. There are only open questions. So I ask you: do you compete more or less than you used to? What are your reasons for competing or not competing? And what should our goals be?
Ride happy,
Katrin