08/17/2026
The trainers that tell you your fearful or feral dog cannot undergo stress or experience difficulty and improve are not aware of the "science." They may be going off old thoughts about stress, misinterpreted experiements done in a sterile room, and their own personal discomfort with seeing a dog undergo stress from learning new tasks. They don't understand the value in teaching the dog self-control from the beginning, Teaching self-control requires a stressful challenge that is within the dog's ability to succeed. Understanding how the brain forms habits and how its much harder to change a habit that is formed than to build a beneficial one from the beginning also plays a part in a dog changing in a reasonable amount of time.
Self control is key to forming good habits that allow a dog, and ourselves, go through life smoothly. To form beneificial habits, either in ourselves or in our dogs, there is friction to do what is sometimes harder in the short term. But doing what is hard in the short term, like teaching a fearful dog to not hide and be out in the kitchen instead, will build self control in the dog. The dog will learn that he can do hard things, learn that he will survive and even enjoy life more. In a few months this behavior will become a habit and he will go through life repeating the beneficial habits he learned earlier.
For us, going to the gym or not eating junk food may be hard, and takes self control. But we build better habits and are happier and healtheir for it. After a while, the beneifical habits are automatic, and not as hard to do. I changed my diet radically a few months ago. I gained control over my sugar cravings, which was HARD, but now I have a new habit in what I eat that is sustainable.
For a fearful dog, many people let the dog practice lack of self-control. A dog goes into intintucal brain of flight or freeze. The dog panics and runs away, hides, or avoids "scary" things. These behaviors are forming a habit that is not beneficial for a dog's co-existence in a home and causing a low aulity of life in chronic stress. These behaviors are best changed by teaching the dog self-control. Using a leash and showing the dog that NOT hiding can result in better outcomes, and teaching the dog that he doesn't have to panic and run away to be safe, with empathy and kindness, is key. This can be done gradually, but not so gradually the dog forms fearful behavior habits in the meantime.
The more the dog is taught he doesn't have to be afraid, or that being touched is good, the more the dog will gain self-control and emotion regulation.
My foster dog Taz is a great example. She used to spaz out with any kind of interaction. She was acting out of fear - definately in her instintual brain and not thinking through things well. If I would have let her continue this kind of behavior, she would have developed bad habits for living with people. Instead I "made" her tolerate having a leash being put on, being touched, walking with me around the house, and going for walks. I say "made" because she would not have done these behaviors without intervention. Dogs cannot understands words like, "its okay Fluffy. We are going to go outside, and you can have fun sniffing and chasing butterflies." They have to experience it. We cannot wait for the dog to decide to change its behavior.
Just to be clear - I am not talking about flooding a dog with an overwhlming amount of stress I have seen some horrible suggestions to make a dog stay outside with fireworks going off until the dog isn't afraid any more. That is not the kind of thing I recommend.
I recommend building trust with the dog internally - not by using external food rewards. I recommend consistently pushing the dog past their current comfort zone towards pro-social behavior with people and welfare - for the dog's own good. You will be amazed at how fast dogs can progress if we get rid of all the emotional, heart-string pulling, unsciency guidance on the internet that keeps dogs stuck and keeps owners feeling sorry for the dogs. Look outside your own comfort zone if you are feeling unsure about how to hep your dog. Go with something that is different than what has not been working. There are ways to help your dog past fear, and get them living a happy life. I have new online courses out now to help fearful and feral dogs thrive and teach their humans how to get them there.
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If you want to learn about the science behind this post - here it is https://youtu.be/AHk5dskxFc8?si=Rver6GQFqnLvnDOM