02/28/2025
Hello friends.
Amanda Nelson here.
Today was officially a month since we gathered Ben's staff members in the lobby he ruled over and said our last goodbyes.
I look for him every single day. I check my feet in doorways. I move the keyboard above the computer so he doesn't have to mash his paws in the buttons when he's walking across to his water cup. I go to the grocery store and make a mental note to grab more broths.
But he's not there. And each time the realization squeezes tight in my chest like a sponge being wrung out.
I find myself missing the weird things lately - the songs I'd sing out loud to and about him, the way he'd spidermonkey around the pharmacy when he got out of his litter box. His meow in the mornings when we'd tell him it's time to clock-in.
I miss the sound of the bell on his collar somewhere in an exam room where I couldn't see him.
And now it still feels like that.
Like he's in the hospital somewhere where I can't see him.
And my heart breaks over and over and over again.
Working in veterinary medicine, I believe, teaches you to become more acutely aware to pain and suffering in animals. You've watched clients wait too long to make the call because of the pain it'll inflict and you've seen patients die way ahead of their time from accidents and errors and just plain unavoidable circumstances.
For that reason I knew I didn't want Ben to ever live a single day - a single MINUTE - of extra suffering just to spare us the rest of our lifetimes of grief missing him.
I know we made the right choice.
All of the wonderful calls, texts, messages, DMs, comments, cards, pieces of art, letters, and kind words have helped tremendously, so thank you to everyone that has reached out.
I took ten million photos and videos of this boy and I wish it were a billion more.
The video I'm including is from his last Monday shift, enjoying his favorite Cheetos. He hadn't eaten much on Saturday before this and even less on Sunday; so what a gift it was to us when we were already distraught for him to have a goodbye snack.
Talk again soon.
❤️💔