09/10/2019
A while ago, a horsewoman I know wrote a great post on her page about how nasty and harsh the horse industry can be and how most of us, if we are being honest, have been on both the giving and receiving ends of the negativity. Her point was that we could all be a little more supportive of each other and a little less snarky.
It got me thinking about the years I’ve been in horses, the different paths I’ve taken to get to the point I am at right now, and the mistakes and missteps along the way. The first thing I felt was certainly the pang of a bruised ego because 1) I remember the times I have been treated badly by other equestrians. I remember some names I’ve been called and some comments I’ve heard that really hurt. 2) I remember the times my hurt pride or my own overinflated ego might have hurt someone else. And that sucks even more.
The second thing I felt was immense gratitude. For the people who encouraged me when I barely knew how to use a halter. The people who looked past, (and continue to look past) my mistakes and failures to see how much I loved horses and how much I wanted to learn. For the teachers who didn’t need to serve their egos and crush someone who was less knowledgeable, less polished, and less sure. Those teachers who kindly shared their wealth of wisdom with me even when I couldn’t fully grasp what they were offering. How incredible this journey has been because of the encouragers, the teachers, and the patient kindness of people who understood my heart.
The truth is, we all started somewhere. Some of us had top notch horses and trainers and all the best of everything from day one. Some of us begged rides on any old horse we were allowed to get close to and had to do a lot of fumbling in the dark before we really started to understand the whole horsemanship thing. And no matter where we started, none of us has ‘arrived’. I don’t know a perfect horseman. In fact the teachers and mentors I look up to the most are the most devout students of the horse. Continuously working to gain a deeper and better understanding of these complex and incredible animals. Nobody arrives at total equestrian perfection. So maybe we could all cut each other a little slack, offer a hand when someone’s struggling, stop taking ourselves so damn seriously, and make the grand adventure of horsemanship a little better for everyone.