01/02/2025
Have you heard of the “Let Them” philosophy? As I continue to evolve, I find myself more at peace with the idea of embracing the “Let Them” principle in my life and relationships.
This understanding didn't come easily; it took me quite a while to grasp. In the past, I tolerated a lot just to avoid losing people. However, I learned, often the hard way, that if someone truly valued me, they wouldn’t treat me poorly. It’s crucial not to be so forgiving that you ignore the ongoing disrespect you’re facing.
Allow them to feel upset.
Allow them to judge you.
Allow them to misunderstand you.
Allow them to talk behind your back.
Allow them to ignore your existence.
Allow them to feel they’re “right.”
Allow them to have doubts about you.
Allow them to dislike you.
Allow them to stop communicating with you.
Allow them to tarnish your name.
Allow them to paint you as the villain.
Whatever narratives they choose to create about you, just let them!
With kindness, step back and LET THEM.
The painful reality is that they are aware of the pain they inflict, yet they choose to disregard it. They made their choices knowing it could cost them your presence, and they went ahead anyway. Those who truly love you are mindful of how their actions affect your feelings. That’s the bottom line. It’s time to let them go.
Some people would rather lose you than confront their wrongdoings. Let them walk away.
The absence of respect was your closure. The lack of an apology was your closure. The indifference was your closure. The absence of accountability was your closure. The dishonesty was your closure. Let them go.
You can still extend kindness and even love them from afar, but do so from the distance they’ve created with their words and actions. Access to your life is a privilege they have shown they cannot handle. Let them go.
This journey has taken me many sleepless nights, countless tears, and a whirlwind of emotions—anger, disappointment, confusion, and profound hurt. It has involved deep self-reflection, prioritizing my own well-being, fervent prayer, and seeking advice from those wiser than myself.
If you're grappling with this, know that you are not alone. We may never fully understand why some hurt others, but we can commit to our own personal growth. Remember, healed individuals have the power to heal others.
Don’t let them take away your joy.
Don’t let them dim your light.
Don’t let them disturb your peace.
You hold the reins to that.
Focus on what you can control, and release what you cannot.
Let them go. 🤍✨✨✨
