09/03/2026
The art of continually choosing larger bodies of water.
I have no interest in becoming the biggest fish in a small pond.
To be honest, we don’t live in the most incredibly competitive area. There are places with more trainers per square mile, more quality horses per square mile, and a much deeper field of competition.
Regularly, I choose to drive to said places.
To compete. To watch. To learn. To get beaten.
Why?
Because the goal is not just to win because nobody better showed up.
Winning IS fun. I love ribbons as much as the next person, and I’m certainly not going to pretend I’m disappointed when one of my horses walks away with a blue one.
But I never want winning to become more important than finding out where the holes are.
There is an enormous amount of value in putting ourselves in rooms, arenas, clinics, and competitions where you are decidedly average. There is even more value in finding yourself somewhere you are well below average.
Go watch the riders who are better than you. Compete against the horses that are more talented than yours. Ride with the trainer who notices things you haven’t noticed yet. Put yourself in situations where your current standard is not particularly impressive.
It IS uncomfortable.
But it is also incredibly motivating.
Because suddenly the things that felt exceptional at home become the baseline, and you start to see another level of detail or another level of preparation that you didn’t know you were missing.
And then you get to take that information home with you.
There is a certain safety in staying somewhere you already know you’re good. Your confidence remains intact, your results probably look nice, and you rarely have to confront the uncomfortable possibility that there is a whole lot you still don’t know.
But I don’t think that’s where much growth happens.
Every time I start to feel comfortable in one pond, I want to go looking for a bigger one.
Not to prove that I belong there, because I want to find out what it takes to belong there.
There will always be a bigger pond.
I hope I never stop looking for one.