11/29/2025
So many people need to read this. Respect and common courtesy go a long way. â¤ď¸
"People leave trainers, but itâs how they leave that makes all the difference. There is a right way and there is a wrong way.
So, youâve decided to leave for a change in discipline, pace, or a different program. Maybe you have outgrown your trainer? Maybe you want to be closer to home? Maybe there is a âdealâ you cannot pass up? These things happen! Itâs okay to make a change, but it is not okay to be crappy to the people that have taken care of you/your four-legged friend. Most professionals spend more time, effort, and energy on you/your critter than you will ever know. It costs nothing to be kind as you make your departure.
Instead of being snippy, have a conversation with your trainer/barn owner, or send a note. However you want to do it, let them know that youâll be leaving for a change. Most owners/trainers will be bummed, but we know this stuff happens. Be honest with us.
Some things that arenât helpful when leaving:
Donât lie. Donât tell your trainer that your kid is taking a break from riding to pursue a school sport when you are actually switching barns. This is especially important if you will be running into one another at the shows. Be honest. Weâd rather find out from you.
Do not announce your departure on Facebook so your barn/trainer finds out through social media or through a third party. Having the conversation can be super uncomfortable, but there are absolutely no excuses for your trainer to find out from someone else or online.
Do not post comments, pictures, and videos âdiggingâ at your old barn. âLook at what Iâm doing now that I left!â Most of us are professionals and arenât going to comment that what you are doing looks dangerous or that you werenât showing up for lessons or riding regularly so thatâs why we didnât have you doing XYZ. Maybe we werenât comfortable with something you wanted to try. Or one hard truth, maybe your ânewâ trainer is better for you than we were. Is it nice to post that kind of stuff on social media? The only reason that I can think of that people do this is to hurt feelings and create drama. Be better.
Do not recruit current clients. You are leaving. There is no reason to take others down with you. What if some asks you where youâre going? Sure! Tell them. Do whatever. Thatâs not what Iâm talking about here. Iâm talking about the client that leaves and actively reaches out to others left behind to encourage them to leave as well. Thatâs just crappy.
The worst situation is one where you were asked to leave. I realize that must have been really hard for you. But guess whatâitâs also really hard for your barn/trainer."
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