04/19/2026
Stay with me, because this post is about dog behavior.
This exchange between me and my friend Josh is a perfect example of play, the kind our dogs do.
It started with an invitation, also called teasing/flirting, like when a dog pounces, or just 'acts silly' next to another.
When I accepted, we mirror, or copy, each other's behaviors. A minor escalation - I punch Josh in the face. Another escalation - Josh lifts me up. Escalation can be when dogs are open-mouth-jousting and one bites too hard. It can also be when one dog overwhelms the other by pinning.
Josh put me down, because PAUSES in play are healthy, and designed to prevent continued escalation.
He switched roles and allowed me to dominate, made himself smaller by self-handicapping. This would be the husky rolling over for the corgi. Loose body language, smiles, and inhibition of power throughout.
I ended with a redirection, a friendly pat before putting my attention elsewhere. This would be the dog breaking from play to chew on a bone, or shake a plushie.
Dogs are the same, If we raise them to have healthy social cues.
An invitation, in the wrong context, wrong partner, wrong intensity, is not "friendly."
The line between play and fight is razor thin. And remember, dogs bring knives to the proverbial fist fight.
When trainers say, socialize your dogs well, we aren't telling you to let your dogs play with everyone, just as I don't go around punching everyone even though I love this game. What it means is to teach your dog when NOT to play, when to give someone space, how to approach (hint, rushing in is only reserved for close friends), and how to match the other dog.
None of this is learned in dog parks, or in unrestricted hiking areas. Because in those spaces, the ones who dominate (and teach) the lessons your dog will remember most are the rushers, the slammers, the pinners... "But he was just trying to play!"
The dog who 'aggressively' tries to ward the other away is almost never the problem. Remember this.
And thank you to my brothers at the gym, for inviting me to play and always making me feel safe doing so.
(permission given from all parties in video)