
06/18/2025
It’s impossible to summarize my entire philosophy into a few slides*, but here goes: A life without play is not a good life. A life with play is. I do mean that a life with butt scritches is better than one without (depending on the receiver), but it goes a lot deeper than that.
Play seems so easy, but it isn’t always. Sometimes we think we’re playing, but we’re not. We can build habits of play that allow it to come more naturally. There are lots of little ways to be playful, like making up little songs while we cook or wiggling our bodies or choosing a different way to drive home from work.
We can ask ourselves if we’re playing against or with our dogs. In tug, do we always try to win? Or does our dog get to win just as often? Are we reversing roles? Are we laughing? What sorts of choices do our dogs make and get to make? Where can we add in a bit more choice and agency?
Are we listening to our dogs? Are we letting them teach us how to play? Are we attuning ourselves to them and what they’re asking of us? Are we being present with them?
We can ask ourselves if we’re adopting a playful way of life. Do we question the status quo? Do we let ourselves be a little bit uncomfy? Do we try to flex our muscles of wonder? Do we try to create ways for others to also be more playful? Are we promoting freedom and liberation?
I’d probably also say that a life without dogs isn’t a good life either, so the best life is one playing and finding joy with dogs. What do you think?
*I have written whole books and chapters on this! Playing with ideas is one of my favorite ways to play, though I know it’s not for everyone.
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