04/17/2024
It took me a long time to learn this lesson. It is the Wisdom of the Enneagram that helped me to see how addicted I was thinking that I must make everyone better... I was so wrong... so wrong...
"I call them âThe Suggesters.â Theyâre the people in your personal life who constantly tell you what you âshouldâ do to improve it. They do this even if you havenât asked for help, even if you like where your life is. They even do this after you tell them that their constant suggestions make you feel like they donât accept you as you are. When asked why they continue, they tell you they are doing it because they care about you. Because you deserve something better. And sometimes thatâs true. But sometimes you get the feeling that itâs not about you at all. That itâs entirely about them. And thatâs true, too. Sometimes itâs just a conditioned thingâthey are doing what they were taught to do. Sometimes itâs a survival patternâthey are living out a role that saved them in childhood. Sometimes itâs a control thingâthey simply love to dominate others. Sometimes itâs a hiding gameâby focusing on what needs improvement in your life, they donât have to face what needs improvement in theirs. Sometimes itâs an ego thingâthey need you to look or live a certain way, so they can feel better on your arm. And sometimes itâs a vicarious thingâthey have a tendency to live their lives through others. They havenât been able to fulfill their promise, so they push you to fulfill yours. They want you to become more successful so they can feel more successful. Whatever it is, beware âThe Suggesters.â They donât always have your best interests at heart."
~Jeff Brown~
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