05/23/2026
I keep seeing these “male vs female” breeder posts going around lately, and honestly some of them make me laugh a bit. People try so hard to promote males that they end up making females sound like these dominant, territorial little monsters… and that just isn’t reality.
You really don’t have to put one gender down to talk about the other.
I’ve raised both for years, lived with both, and the truth is pretty simple: there are amazing males and amazing females. There are also stubborn males and stubborn females. It comes down to genetics, temperament, confidence, socialization, and the individual dog.
People love to lean on stereotypes.
You’ll hear “females are sweeter, calmer, cleaner, easier,” and then on the other side “males are more affectionate, easier to train, more loving, more fun.” And both sides tend to exaggerate things that just aren’t that black and white.
In my experience, males do tend to be more openly affectionate and attention-seeking. A lot of them are goofy, clingy, playful, and very people-focused. They’ll follow you everywhere, sit on you, and act like your shadow. That’s usually what wins people over once they actually live with one.
Females can be just as incredible. Some of the smartest, most intuitive, most loyal dogs I’ve ever had have been females. A lot of girls are more observant and confident — bonded deeply to their people, just in a different way. Some are sweet and easygoing, some are playful, and some absolutely run the house 😂
And honestly, you can have 50 people in the comments swear by their experience with males or females, and that’s fine — but it’s still just their experience. It doesn’t define the entire gender, and it definitely doesn’t guarantee that’s the puppy you’re going to get. You can hear the same story 20 times and still end up with a completely different personality in your own home. That’s why I don’t put much weight into “male vs female” debates online — every dog is still an individual.
At the end of the day, I don’t even think in terms of “better.” I think in terms of fit. The right puppy is the one whose temperament matches your home, not the one whose gender you pre-decided before you ever met them.
