
07/11/2025
Wise words about relationship with our dogs.
Another excellent read from a really good dog man:
Crushing Trust
Some behaviors dog owners do—often without realizing—can quietly erode the bond with their dogs, leaving pets anxious, confused, or even fearful. Understanding these subtle missteps is crucial for building a relationship rooted in trust and affection.
**Common Bond-Crushing Behaviors:**
- **Ignoring Your Dog’s Signals:** Dogs communicate through body language—flattened ears, lowered tails, or lip licking signal discomfort or stress. Overlooking these cues can make your dog feel unseen and unsafe, ultimately causing them to stop trying to communicate with you.
- **Punishing Instead of Training:** Yelling, hitting, or harsh corrections don’t teach your dog what to do; they teach your dog to fear you. This fear breaks trust, leading to anxiety, withdrawal, or even aggression. Positive reinforcement—rewarding good behavior with treats, praise, or play—builds confidence and strengthens your bond.
- **Over-Reliance on Treats:** Using treats as the main way to interact can create a transactional relationship, where your dog responds only for rewards, not out of genuine connection.
- **Neglecting Emotional and Mental Needs:** Dogs need daily interaction and mental stimulation. Leaving your dog alone for long periods or not engaging in play and training can make them feel isolated and lead to behavioral problems.
- **Forcing Unwanted Affection:** Many dogs dislike hugs or being petted on the head, even if you mean well. Forced contact can make them feel trapped or stressed, teaching them to avoid you instead of seeking you out.
- **Inconsistent or Overly Complex Communication:** Using long or unclear commands confuses dogs, as they rely more on body language than words. Consistency and simplicity help your dog understand and trust you.
**How to Correct These Behaviors:**
- **Pay Attention to Body Language:** Learn your dog’s signals and respect their boundaries. If your dog moves away or shows signs of discomfort, give them space.
- **Use Positive Reinforcement:** Focus on rewarding desired behaviors rather than punishing mistakes. This fosters trust and makes training enjoyable for both of you.
- **Engage in Regular Training and Play:** Short, positive training sessions—even for skills your dog already knows—keep their mind sharp and deepen your connection.
- **Respect Individual Preferences:** Not all dogs enjoy the same types of affection. Let your dog approach you for cuddles, and avoid forced hugs or head pats if they seem uncomfortable.
- **Be Consistent and Clear:** Use simple commands and reinforce them with body language. Dogs thrive on routine and clear expectations.
**Interesting Fact:**
Dogs have evolved to read human emotions and body language exceptionally well, sometimes even better than other humans can. This unique skill means your dog is constantly watching and learning from you—so every interaction shapes your bond, for better or worse.
By recognizing and correcting these subtle mistakes, you can replace confusion and stress with trust, joy, and a truly unbreakable bond with your dog. Doss, canine Encounters
Dog in photo belongs to Denise Page and comes from recent public training day here