07/09/2025
💫 The Infinite Mindset & Horses 💫
In the horse world, we often hear it said: “It’s not fair.” And to be honest—many times, it isn’t. There is an imbalance. Money can and does produce opportunities. Opportunities often flow more easily to those with financial backing. That’s a reality of the horse world.
But what becomes more dangerous is when we use that thought process to discredit others’ success.
I’ve heard riders say things like, “They only achieved X because of Y.” (Hint: usually "Y" is something negative - it typically isn't because they worked hard or earned it). That kind of thinking can feel satisfying in the moment—but it’s ultimately limiting and toxic. You never know someone’s full story, and assumptions often say more about us than them.
I’ll use myself as an example. When I first opened my business, I heard: “She only has a business because her parents gave her a lot of money.”
While I’m grateful to have had encouraging parents, I didn’t receive a financial windfall to start my business—I built it from the ground up.
Later, when I had a quality horse in my program, the rumors evolved: “Her dad bought her a $60,000 horse.”
(For the record—Dad, if you did do that, feel free to hand him over any time!)
The truth? That horse came from a rescue.
But people sometimes need to rewrite someone else's story to make themselves feel better. I know, because I’ve been there too. As a younger rider, I looked around at other girls with imported horses, brand-new Tailored Sportsmans, and walls of ribbons. I’d convince myself they had it easier. And maybe they did. But that mindset only kept me stuck.
Shifting to an infinite mindset changed everything.
Now, I want my competitors to win.
I want the riders with privilege to win.
I want the riders who’ve struggled to win.
I want the riders with fancy horses to win—and the ones riding greenies and hand-me-downs too.
I want my previous students to win.
I want trainers I no longer train with to win.
I still want myself to win, but I am equally as happy to see others winning.
This mindset is about collaboration over competition. Long-term growth over short-term validation. It’s about knowing that when one of us rises with integrity, it lifts the sport as a whole and in the end the horses benefit the most. Every challenge is an opportunity for growth. Focus on being better, not just "the best" and every step towards improvement will come easier - and your horses will appreciate that you are happy for little wins!
So if you're not riding upper levels yet—cheer for those who are. Cheer for the ones walking alongside you with similar dreams. Cheer for the horses, no matter who rides them.
Because this sport isn’t really about you.
It’s about the horses—and the people you touch along the way.
Shifting to this mindset will open doors for you—truly.
If someone showed up at your door, venting about how everyone else is only successful because they have it easier and painting themselves as the victim of an unfair system, would you be eager to invite them in for coffee? Probably not.
When you put others down or carry resentment, you’re showing up with that same energy. And guess what? Opportunities can sense that. Doors won’t open when you bring bitterness to their threshold.
But when you operate with confidence, positivity, and a genuine desire to see others succeed—even when it’s not your turn yet—you attract the kind of energy and relationships that do open doors.
✨ So take a breath, refocus, and trust your process—with gratitude, grace, and grit. Celebrate others, work hard, and trust that your time is coming. The right people, horses, and opportunities will find you. Just keep showing up with the right mindset. ✨
Pictured: My student Amelia & Roscoe