10/30/2024
Many of us have heard the quote "There is something about the outside of a horse that is good for the inside of a man".
Even more of us have heard, or maybe even said, "Horses are my therapy". Though many horsemen have said this, many riders have gravely misunderstood the depth and weight these words carry.
On the surface these words illustrate a beautiful healing power horses do indeed possess. The misunderstanding is in HOW that healing happens. Many hear these phrases and picture the horse making the man feel better, thereby placing the responsibility of emotional stability onto the horse. This is a superficial hope and, honestly, an unfair expectation to place upon the horse. Anyone who has been in this game long enough will tell you this is a perfect setup to create anxiety ridden horses and riders.
The "-good for the inside of the man", or "therapy", is done within the horseman-regardless of the horse's emotional state-and is not achieved without pain, blood, sweat, and tears.
Horsemanship is a practice in centeredness in the present moment-not harboring tension or resentment toward what happened even a moment ago nor concerning ourselves with what may happen in the next stride. It is the art of letting everything in the world fall away from not just the mind, but the body as well, and being focused and reliable FOR the horse. The horse is depending on his horseman to guide him fairly and boldly through their partnership. What hope could the horse have if his rider expects him to carry both of their anxieties and fears?
The most difficult skill and greatest gift a horseman can develop for his horse is the ability to push away all the turmoil of life when he picks up the halter and heads out to catch his partner, and leave that baggage at the gate until the horse has been turned back out.
So, yes, the outside of a horse IS good for the inside of a man, and horses ARE my therapy, because the horse has made me take a brutal self-inventory and taught me to live in this very moment, at least until I hang that halter back up for the day.