02/21/2026
The 20-Second Rule. We use this Rule when teaching Horse Speak, but it applies to everything you do with horses. I use it as part of my holistic approach to horsemanship for obstacle and liberty play, training or retraining, and under-saddle applications, and have for many, many years. It reminds folks to slow down when making a request. The idea is to ask and wait 20 seconds (minimum) before changing anything. Don't repeat yourself. Don't add more pressure. Don't quit. Just stay, visualize your desire, breathe, ground, center yourself, wait, and count.
Since last summer, Riley has had incredible difficulty lifting his left hind leg (due to a physical issue). Every time you ask, he lifts and holds up his right hind, saying, "I have a better idea. Why don't you clean/trim this one?" I generally breathe out, say, "No thank you," and gently guide that foot away and down from the one I want lifted. Then I repeat my request. This routine can go on for several minutes, sometimes with a bit of success, sometimes not.
Last week, I FINALLY remembered to practice what I preach. I decided to keep my hand in the 'requesting' position and not respond in any other way, for 20 seconds. He is a trained horse, almost 21 years old, and knows exactly what I am asking. Sure enough, at count 19, he took some weight off his left leg for a moment. I shouldn't have been surprised, but I was!
We are all a "work in progress," and horses never stop teaching us. I truly believe that most horses will do what you ask if they can. If they don't respond, it is due to fear, pain, past trauma, or they just don't understand the request. The idea of adding more pressure is the same as YELLING your request. You might get a response out of fear, but we know if their nervous system gets triggered, then no real learning is taking place. It also does not convince them that you can be the trusted leader they will willingly follow.
Next time you make any request, and it doesn't happen immediately, try this: Step back, take a breath, and assess the situation. Try to see it from their perspective. Read their facial expression, body language, breathing, and nervous system state. Find your answer. As long as they are in a neutral state, try again and wait... literally count out 20 seconds. Done right, it will seem like a very long time...........and how ridiculous is that? We should be able to give them 20 seconds to process and respond. Humans process quickly, in comparison to a horse. They live in the present. Don't wear watches and don't care how long it takes. It takes as long as it takes. Patience.....it can be hard, but so worth it in the end. You'll both feel better for it. Send me your success stories. I want to hear them! [email protected]
Oh, and by the way. It worked for the farrier today, too! 😊