07/21/2025
" Have you ever said, “I just want to feel more confident”?
It’s one of the most common things I hear from riders. And it makes total sense. Confidence feels good—it feels like trust, ease, and clarity all rolled into one.
But here’s the thing:
When someone says they want more confidence, I often ask a follow-up question:
What kind of confidence are you talking about?
Because there are two kinds—and knowing the difference changes everything.
Self-confidence is belief in yourself.
It’s your ability to say, “I’ll figure this out—even if I make mistakes along the way.”
It shows up when you commit to practicing something new, even though you know it might feel awkward at first.
Skill-confidence is belief in your ability to do something specific.
It’s earned through repetition. It shows up when your body knows what to do without overthinking—because you’ve done it so many times, it’s second nature.
Let’s take a common situation: doubt or fear when riding.
This might happen after a fall, after time away, or when working with a new horse.
In any of these moments, you might find yourself lacking self-confidence—doubting your ability to handle what might happen or questioning whether you're really ready to try again.
Or you might lack skill-confidence—unsure how to respond if your horse spooks, or uncertain whether your reflexes will kick in the way you need them to.
Either way, it makes sense that things feel shaky.
Now think about something you do automatically, like driving a car or typing.
That confidence didn’t come from hoping—it came from repetition.
It came from the self-confidence that you could figure it out, and the skill-confidence built through practice.
What once felt unfamiliar is now second nature—because you stuck with it.
Riding works the same way.
What feels uncertain today could eventually feel effortless—when you give yourself the space to rebuild both your skills and your belief in yourself.
Ride with Faith,
Stacy Westfall"