08/13/2026
"Because you can’t, it doesn’t mean the horse can’t: a talk about accepting responsibility for what You do not know"
I see this often. I know most quality training barns out there do, as well.
When you come into my barn to look at a horse I have for sale or a horse you trusted me with training I promise you this horse knows how to load, pick up all 4 feet, accepts fly spray,respects personal space, stands to be mounted. . . You name it, the horse does it, or maybe he does most of it, and then he goes home or a buyer will take them home and they know a lot less than a trainer or you would have never trusted me with your horse to begin with……… but needless to say things unravel.
You get a call or email in 3 weeks or 3 months, and it goes like this:
“Nelly won’t load. No one can load her. I doubt you even ever loaded her.”
You suggest they remember the day Nelly loaded from the facility like a gem, but they do not see how that matters. They insist the horse cannot be loaded now, and therefore, no one can load her, and the horse is the problem.
Let us try another scenario:
“Fluffles runs me over every single time I open the stall, she won’t stand to be mounted, and she bucks the minute I try to get on.”
You suggest they remember the day they came to meet Fluffles, and you remind them how you went to the stall, took her out, how she stayed out of their space, how you put tack on her, how she stood like a gem, how they then mounted and rode her off nicely. They insist it was a fluke. It isn’t the horse they have now. They end up never asking for lessons to fill the deficit in knowledge they, not the horse, have in their skillset.
This is how good trainers get a bad reputation, this is how good horses end up neglected and discarded, and this is how a novice (even if long time) horse owner never really takes responsibility for what they do not know and need to learn.
If someone else accomplished something with a horse, the HORSE KNOWS. If you cannot recreate the same things with your horse, then you do not know, and as a result, you can undo a good horse quickly with ignorance and with mistakes, both large and small.
I’ve seen so many horses that get the short end of the stick because the owners DID not know enough to keep the horses in order. I’ve seen it hundreds of times.
Horses get labels that are unfair because of this.
I get horses all the time that are called dangerous…..all of the time….. and they never show me a dangerous side, and it is important to understand a HORSE KNOWS what you know and what you do not. So sometimes, months of training isn’t even needed to fix behaviors; sometimes, the horse simply realizes he is being handled fairly and correctly, and he responds in the way he learned to respond years ago – as a partner. And the truth is, forcing a horse to endure ignorant treatment without responding isn’t realistic or kind, either.
Please never make the mistake of limiting the horse to WHAT YOU know. He usually knows more than you.
So if you saw a trainer ride the horse W/T/C without an issue, load the horse, back the horse, pick up all 4 feet, receive respect on the ground or whatever else you’re not seeing now, then be fair to the horse, and spend your time assuming the shortcomings belong to you, not him.
