04/25/2026
If you reach for your dog's collarâmaybe to move him off of the couch when he doesn't want to get down, for exampleâyou need to understand that you are, from your dog's perspective, being confrontational, maybe even aggressive. Taking hold of a dogâs collar seems normal and totally fine to us. But it's probably not totally fine to a majority of dogs. You can see this if you watch the body language of a dog whose collar is being grabbed: does he lick his lips, put his ears back, duck his head, close his mouth, or freeze? Or, especially for huskies, does he mouth your hands when you reach for his collar? Each of these subtle forms of communication can be signs of discomfort or worry. In the photo here, my own dog, Bonita, knows the collar grab is no biggie (though sheâs not thrilled with it). Sheâs ok with it because we worked on it and, importantly, I try not to do it unless I truly need to and, when I do, I give her a heads up (I always say, âlemme getchaâ).
If you feel the need to grab your dog's collar, stop and think: Is this absolutely necessary? Could you convince the dog that he actually wants to get down from the couch on his own? If your dog is new to you (newly adopted rescue dog, for example), you might want to have him dragging a leash inside the house (when youâre there with him)âthat way you can grab the end of the leash rather than getting right in his face for a collar grab before he even knows you. And for any dogâeven one you know wellâI suggest that you spend a little time to help him become more comfortable with a collar grab. Hereâs just one simple way to work on this:
https://youtu.be/h-xVAgr4qQQ?si=Mh-7P8R1jGb95_2R