07/27/2025
“If you’re not first, you’re last” is a phrase I’ve heard a lot in my riding career. It was used in dead seriousness, as a phrase of endearment, or as a joke (as it often was on my college equestrian team). There is a lot to be said about placings at horse shows and how we as competitors react towards how we do. When used in complete seriousness, the above phrase is very far from hitting the mark.
What is important for each and every competitor to understand is that “everyone wins well, but not everyone loses well,” as my trainer likes to say. I’ve thought about this phrase a lot, and put some thought into how I lose. A year ago if you asked me if I was a good loser, I would have answered, “Absolutely not.”
I became a perfectionist with my riding during my years competing in IHSA. My first two years at school I was in a lower level due to my lack of a show record, and didn’t get a lot of practice losing which caused extra disappointment from my end when I didn’t do well. My coach would allow everyone on my team “30 minutes and a cookie,” before we had to get over our rough ride and get back to being a team player. A few times I very clearly remember taking all 30 of those minutes to get over my results.
It wasn’t until I got into a higher level of IHSA and dipped my toes in some rated competitions as a working student that I realized not only was I definitely not always going to be the winner, but being the “loser” wasn’t always such a bad thing. Each experience I have had in the show ring has been an opportunity to grow as a rider and a competitor.
Now, my style is much more “You can’t win them all.” I’ve learned that there’s much more to each class than the color ribbon you get at the end. This was very hard for the perfectionist in me to learn, considering the fact that I still beat myself up just a little bit for the things I did wrong on my way back to the barn.
🔗 Read the full article by Amanda Terbrusch at https://www.theplaidhorse.com/2021/01/06/learning-to-be-a-good-loser/
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