12/06/2024
BEHAVIOURAL NEUTRALITY DOES NOT MEAN EMOTIONAL NEUTRALITY - BUT DO WE CARE?
Dogs who react to triggers through vocalising, lunging, pulling on the lead, growling etc etc etc are behaving that way because they feel distressed. Whether that distress be over excitement, frustration, fear, anxiety, conflict or a mix of a few, it's emotional distress.
If our goal is on stopping the behaviour then we need to look at alleviating the emotion behind the behaviour. Just stopping the behaviour and gaining behavioural neutrality means NOTHING if underneath the dog is still in distress.
Forcing a dog into "not reacting" by punishing them for expressing their emotions is not helping them. It may be helping the owners, as absolutely nobody WANTS a dog that over reacts to normal everyday things. But it's the dog in the deepest distress. It's the dog who is having a complete neurochemical reaction that overtakes their mind and body. It's the dog who deserves to feel better.
And a dog that is behaving "better", out of fear of pain or mistreatment, isn't a dog that is feeling better. In fact, they could very well be feeling worse.
And I really wish we'd start to prioritise a dog's emotional experience over their behavioural one.
It isn't impressive to me to see dogs being forced into behavioural neutrality when their body language is one of learned helplessness. In fact it just angers me because if the dog could write the review, I wonder what they'd say?
Look into the dogs eyes and you'll see a world of emotion. You can either be on their side, facing the emotion together as a team, or you can abandon their right to be an emotional being and just focus on getting them to behave the way you want them to.
I am reminded again of one of my clients who said "I'd rather be a fool for being kind...". It isn't wrong to want an answer to a problem but it's not just about the end result. How you get there and what damage is done along the way matters.