03/23/2026
You know your kids best, but they do not have to be left out of these moments and often it is helpful to include them as much as they want to be included. Most kids are not going to have the same attitude and responses as adults, but we don’t expect them to and can be flexible with what they need in the moment. They can play nearby or sit right there with us. They can come and go as they desire. They can ask questions and tell stories, either about their pet or about the random things that pop into their mind. They often enjoy helping make paw prints. They can cry and laugh and know that sadness and joy can go together. Sometimes it can be helpful to have an extra person available to provide calm and supervision and distraction for you child if they want or need to be in a separate space, but that is not a requirement.
I am comfortable explaining to them what is happening in a way that they are able to understand. One of the things we want to be most careful with is to not describe euthanasia as “putting them to sleep” because we don’t want kids to associate going to sleep with dying. I use phrases like “Their body isn’t working anymore and they are going to die soon. I’m giving a special medicine that only pets can get that will help them die more easily and without any pain.” There are various ways to explain cremation as well but I usually say something like "we will take his body to a place where they will change it from what it looks like now to a special powder, kind of like sand. Then you will be able to keep that sand in a special place if you want or some families like to sprinkle it outside to help make flowers or trees grow."
Do what feels best for your family, but know that to me kids are part of the family and their presence, tears, laughter, toys, and questions are all welcome.