12/31/2025
Rarely is it love at first sight, usually it boils down to tolerance.
One is pushy *I will let you guess who that is
One requires a bit more space during greetings when the body language of the other dog is not showing safety (loose and low).
Part of the problem here is the boxer has no tail, and is not loose or low, she’s stiff and tall and does not move away, she stays, if she were to move away, he would follow, saying I ‘might’ want to be friends but I need to figure you out and he starts to have a lot more rules in the play than he typically does.
Her energy both overwhelms him and entices him, he wants to control it and he learned he could.
You can see in most of the pictures that he is stiff, wide eyed and usually above her.
Every time he starts to loosen she goes to 100.
The boxers is really trying, but it isn’t what she is used to, this is new.
Eventually, he lit into her, no blood but an important conversation for them.
The Boxer is young (and a Boxer) she is not fixed, which also adds a variable.
It is really important that if your dog needs to escalate to tell another dog to settle down, they can do so without chewing them up, as soon as I said ENOUGH it was over, I gave the white dog and the Boxer a break.
Social stuff amongst dogs is quite nuanced and it takes a long time to learn each dog, what they can handle, and how much freedom to interact you can safely allow them to have. One mistake and someone gets hurt.
Slow is fast.
Just because dogs have shown they are historically friendly, does not mean fights won’t happen, every dog they come in contact with is different, with a different set of rules and boundaries in play and in regards to their space. Dogs change too as the mature they typically became less tolerant but imo this is not always a natural process, it happens because they are often overwhelmed or underwhelmed when it comes to dog/dog interaction. My own dogs, have become more tolerant not less, they get lots of short, managed interactions each day and I listen to what they tell me they need, they get pressured systematically.
Neither dog was ‘wrong’ during this greeting, even tho it ended with some fireworks. 🎆