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16/06/2022

Be optimistic
Soldiers in full armament need to make a forced march for 40 km. But some were told that the distance is 30 km. Others - that you have to go 60 km.

After completing the forced march, the researchers measured the levels of stress hormones in the blood of both groups. What happened? It turned out that stress does not correspond to reality, but to expectations. What do we conclude? Everyone gets what they expect.

The brain does not like to force the body to waste resources until it sees a real chance to win. Physical strength is not available as long as there is no faith in success, because there is no worse situation for the human body than to waste all resources and fail. At the moment when confidence appears, the gates open through which the flow of energy flows. Hope or despair is what we program ourselves for, they say. Breznitz, C. Hemingway. Maximum brainpower: Challenging the brain for health and wisdom authors of the book Maximum Brain Power. Optimists have more energy. Pessimists have more stress. Everything depends not on objective circumstances, but on the point of view on them.

16/06/2022

No support when needed
Problem: loss of trust
The difficulty is that the loss of trust is not always the result of betrayal or betrayal. Often this problem consists of a large number of minor details. Example: the husband complains about some problem at work, to which the wife replies: “You yourself are to blame.” If at the moment when you are most vulnerable, you do not receive enough support and similar situations are repeated, it becomes more difficult for you to open your soul to a partner. And regaining lost trust is very difficult.

Solution: Become aware of what is happening and learn to talk to each other about it
Unfortunately, in our country, family psychology is not particularly developed - in such a situation it would be nice to seek advice from an impartial third party. A loss of trust will not necessarily be followed by a breakup, but to avoid it, both partners should try to maintain the relationship.

15/06/2022

Constant nit-picking and criticism
Problem: Hidden Neglect
When unspoken negative emotions accumulate in a couple, he (or she) begins to see everything related to the beloved in a negative light. If you notice that you start criticizing your partner (or he/she) for a minor reason - for example, you are annoyed by the way he / she chews food - this means that your negative emotions are getting out of control. Solution: Understand what is causing the irritation and focus on it
The main question is whether you can get to the bottom of the true reason and understand what is more in your relationship - what you like or what you don't like. Ask yourself: Do you see your partner in a positive or negative light?

15/06/2022

Start your morning ritual. Incorporate meditation into it to calm down. As well as positive visualization to set yourself up for success.

14/06/2022

Remember: life is a journey, not a destination
A hackneyed but relevant phrase. Live life to the fullest - feel every day, learn new things, and not sacrifice everything for one goal. Don't be discouraged if it doesn't work at first. This is fine.

14/06/2022

Decide how much communication you need. If you're an introvert, it's probably enough for you to have dinner once a week with a good friend and spend the weekend with your family. If you're an extrovert, you'll want to go somewhere a couple of times a week, and get together with a group of friends on the weekends.

03/06/2022