09/06/2026
The hardest part of separation anxiety training isn’t usually the training itself. It’s showing up again tomorrow.
And the day after that. And the day after that…
When you’ve been practising tiny absences for weeks. When progress feels painfully slow. When your friends are popping out for coffee without a second thought and you’re busy arranging pet sitters, family help, dog walkers and your entire schedule around your dog’s training.
I know because I’ve been there before with Wolfgang. And now I’m going through it again with Bonzie.
𝗦𝗼 𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗺𝘆 𝘁𝗶𝗽𝘀 𝗼𝗻 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝘆 𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘀𝗲𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗮𝗻𝘅𝗶𝗲𝘁𝘆 𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗶𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗿𝘁𝘀 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝗚𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗵𝗼𝗴 𝗗𝗮𝘆:
✔️ Stop focusing on the end goal.
Thinking about the 2, 4, 6 hours you hope to reach can feel overwhelming. Focus on each days’ training session instead.
✔️ Track and celebrate your wins and reward yourself!
Write them down. The human brain is brilliant at spotting what still needs work and terrible at recognising progress. Those extra 10 seconds, the first resettle, choosing to relax sooner, a calmer body language. It all counts.
And celebrate those milestone (big and small)! People outside the separation anxiety world may not understand why you’re excited about a 2-minute absence. People inside it absolutely do. Treat yourself to something exciting whenever you reach a new milestone.
✔️ Look back regularly.
When you’re in the middle of it, it often feels like nothing is changing.
Compare today to three months ago, not yesterday.
✔️ Build a support system (dog sitters, friends, family)
So you can look after yourself. This one is important, to take care of yourself too.
Meet friends. Exercise. Do things that refill your own cup whenever you can.
And finally…if you’re feeling tired, frustrated or demotivated right now, take a day off 💚