20/01/2022
The more I do this work the more Iโm convinced that whatโs at the core of the most rewarding and joyful dog-human relationships isnโt training experience, or exceptional handler skills, or having raised dogs your entire life. Itโs basic compassion and common sense.
Itโs the ability to see the world from the point of view of another living being, in this case, from the point of view of our dogs.
Itโs taking a moment to decenter ourselves and see our dogsโ behavior not based on how it impacts us, makes us look or feel, but from their point of view.
Dog training info and social media can be downright scaryโpseudoscience, egos, fear mongering, and constant assertion of power and control.
People are made to feel guilty for showing their dogs basic acts of kindness or indulging in small moments of pleasure like sharing food or cuddling on the couch.
Our time with our dogs is so brief. None of us are going to look back and say, โwow, Iโm so glad I never let my dog on the couch!โ or โIโm so happy I didnโt comfort them when they were scared.โ
Yes of course teaching life skills matters, but please donโt forget why youโve chosen to share a life with a dog in the first place.
Donโt forget the joy and give them the compassion youโd want to receive if you were navigating a foreign world that wasnโt designed for you.
[ID: A screenshot of a tweet and tweet replies by Jack Herrera that read We give dogs a hard time for overreacting to normal things, but I think I too would react poorly if someone grabbed me and started trying to give me a bath. A stranger suddenly walks into my house? My reaction likely wouldnโt be quiet and calm. A massive explosion and a shower of sparks suddenly fills the sky for reasons I do not understand? Iโd also be concerned!]
Original tweet: https://twitter.com/jherrerx/status/1483310435466153984?s=21