03/11/2025
If you love your dog but sometimes feel you’re winging it, you’re not alone. Most of us grew up around dogs, picked up habits from family or TV, and then… stopped. That’s normal human psychology. But dogs are living in our homes, and a little education can make life safer, kinder, and a lot easier.
Why we think experience is enough
1. Familiarity feels like expertise. When something is part of daily life, our brains label it “known,” even if we’ve never formally learned it. “I’ve had dogs forever” is often a handful of dogs in one context, helpful, but not the same as broad knowledge.
2. Dogs are tolerant. They adapt to our routines and forgive our mistakes, which can hide gaps in our understanding, until something goes wrong (a bite “out of nowhere”).
3. Survivorship bias. If the old ways “worked” for previous dogs, we remember the wins and forget the close calls or differences in breed, age, health, and environment.
4. Modern life changed. Dense housing, busy streets, fewer off-lead spaces, and more visitors/kids/pets create pressures many dogs from “back then” didn’t face.
A bit of behaviour and body language knowledge prevents the most common accidents: “sudden” reactivity that was actually clearly signposted, if we knew what to look for.
Common myths that keep us stuck
“He’s just stubborn.” Many “won’t” problems are actually “can’t” problems pain, fear, or confusion.
“He knows what he did.” Dogs read patterns, not morals. If timing or clarity is off, they learn something else.
“He’ll grow out of it.” Puppies grow out of very little without guidance; most things are grown into by repetition.
What should you do:
Learn dog body language; teach your family the early signs. It pays off for years.
Make consent a habit. Call a dog over rather than reaching in. Growling gets space and only then do you fix the reason.
Manage the environment. Management prevents rehearsals of the very thing you’re trying to stop.
Reward for calm, checking in, loose leads, and moving away from triggers. Small wins, repeated often.
You’ve had dogs your whole life. Great. Imagine how good you’ll both feel when you can also say, “I learned their language.”