17/06/2026
Can we stop putting dogs in rubbish situations and then blaming them when they finally snap?
Crowded. Grabbed. Leaned over. Hugged. Stared at. Cornered. Woken up. Followed. Pestered. Restrained. Our face in their face. Touched again, and again, after they already tried to leave.
No dog likes this on the best of days.
And they have been communicating this the whole time! If you keep missing it, you're not making anyone safer. You're just teaching the dog that communicating doesn't work.
Stiff body. Head turning away. Mouth closing tight. Weight sinking back. A lip lick, a glance away, a freeze, a duck, a small shuffle toward the door. Sometimes we miss this because no one ever showed us what to look for. Sometimes we miss it because we've decided the dog should just put up with it.
Then the dog growls, or snaps, or bites and suddenly the dog is the problem. Labeled rude, dramatic, unpredictable, or aggressive. And the most common words to follow? That nip "came out of nowhere." But no, it sure didn't. It's where the conversation goes when everything before it already failed.
I'm not saying a snap is nothing. It's quite obviously something. It's most often the dog telling you something got too difficult or uncomfortable. Call it "bad behaviour" and you throw all of that information straight in the bin.
Look at all the things we ask of dogs.
Be friendly, but don't jump!
Let yourself be grabbed, but don't pull away!
Be patient, but don't growl!
Put up with it, but don't leave!
Be good, but don't ever say no!
Then we're shocked when the only sentence left end in a warning.
I'm not suggestig every snapping situation is simple or that context doesn't matter. It very much matters! Pain, fear, startle, frustration, history, wakefullness... all of it changes how fast a dog gets there. Some dogs have had every early signal punished or ignored so often there's almost no ladder left to climb. Some dogs are carrying more than anyone could reasonably carry.
Which is exactly the point. Respecting a dog's communication is about noticing early. It's making space before things boil over. It's teaching kids and adults that a dog's body is not a public attraction. It's teaching when to ask, and when to wait to BE asked. And how.
A snap should stop us in our tracks, literally. Not only to evaluate their state of wellbing, but to ask what that snap "says about me, about what I just did, about what I've been asking this dog to put up with?"
Dogs are expected to compromise constantly. Tolerate the hug. Tolerate the stranger. Tolerate the kid. Tolerate the vet poking and proding them, hours in the crate, the random noise, the grabby hands.
Maybe it's not the dog who needs to change. Maybe it's us.
[Edit: The original graphic has been removed. I understand concerns about the use of AI for creating images and I apologise for any misstep. I have chosen to swap the image to keep the focus purely on the message itself. Thank you, as always, for your incredible support.]