23/06/2026
ICommon Signs of Rude Dogs at Play
Here are some typical patterns to look for:
1. One-sided play - one chaser - one chased
The other dog rarely "wins" or takes the lead. The dog being chased will often seek out its owner for help.
2. Lack of impulse control
In good play, larger or more confident dogs will soften their behavior (e.g., lie down, reduce their force).
Rude dogs play with full intensity regardless of who they are playing with.
3. Ignoring stop signals
Balanced dogs respond when another dog says "enough" (by turning away, freezing, licking their lips, or moving away).
Rude dogs continue the "play" despite these signals
4. No breaks or short breaks
Good play is two-sided, and flows naturally in different phases. It includes natural breaks. During the breaks, the dogs will stand and observe, sniff, and sniff the grass until they are ready to start again.
Rude play is often relentless and intense without breaks or calm.
5. Escalation instead of adaptation. The play becomes wilder, more boundless, instead of the rude dog learning to adapt to the play style of the other dog. It often becomes more and more chaotic and the dogs involved have no fun at all, they are stressed and overstimulated.
Your job as an owner is to find a friend for your dog who matches your dog's age +/- a couple of years, about the same size (so no one gets hurt), the same activity level and roughly the same health situation, the same temperament, and that they either have the same play style, or that they can adapt to each other.
Dogs should not be left to their own devices during play, we owners must follow and observe, look at the intensity, the flow, whether one or both dogs show signs of stress, or that they are being chased.
If your dog approaches you during play and stands behind you, between your legs, jumps up on you, then you interpret it as a sign that they want to get away from the game and end it, no matter how much fun you think they are having.