05/06/2025
Being a parent, whether to a child, a dog, or any living being, is tough. True parenting is about navigating relationships between complex beings. It is about understanding emotion, making space for trust, and choosing connection over control.
There will be times we fall out. Times we misread signals, times frustration takes hold, times we wish understanding came easier. But at the heart of it all, the beings in our care, whatever species, need to feel emotionally safe with us.
And that kind of safety doesn’t come from obedience. It doesn’t come from perfectly structured behaviour or rigid training methods. It comes from trust, from knowing that, even in moments of fear, uncertainty, or struggle, they will not be punished, dismissed, or forced into silence.
But that trust requires something difficult. It asks us to look inward. To be brave enough to become better people.
To challenge our own biases. To recognise where our need for control is rooted in fear. To understand that shaping another being’s confidence means first confronting our own insecurities.
Because real connection, the kind that transforms relationships, is never built on control or convenience. It is built on the ability to look in the mirror, acknowledge who we are, love ourselves, and still choose to grow.
It is the bravest thing a person can do.
Society often teaches us to prioritise results, whether it’s the most obedient dog, the most polished career, the most validated existence. But what if we prioritised depth instead?
What if we saw relationships not as something to manage, but something to honor? What if we stopped compromising what is right for what is easy?
Because you can’t train away emotion. You can’t discipline fear out of a dog, or shame growth into a person. But you can create space for understanding. For trust. For relationships built on something far stronger than control.
At the heart of everything, whether in parenting, in training, or simply in being
human, the only thing that truly matters is connection.
And when we place that at the center of all we do, everything changes.